No comments if you're going to bitch at me.

[declension]

In agreeing to have the doctors step down all of the medication currently shuttling through tubes in his arms, my father has, perhaps inadvertently, signed my grandfather's death warrant. He is saddened, of course, that the time has come

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[vagynafondue]

It's human nature for you to feel that way. It doesn't mean you're cold. It's too bad he missed out on involving himself in your life. His loss.

:(

[shepline]

I, for one, am just wondering if we have to go back to New Jersey in the cold for the interrment.

When, as it sounds like it will, the inevitatble does happen, there is no reason why the Interrement should not wait until this cold spell has passed - maybe even until the Spring. He will, as it happens, not be going anywhere...

*hugs*

On some level, you deserve it.

[octopus_garden]

This is the famous "what goes around comes around" and I admire you for your honesty.

I avoided my grandmother for the last six or seven years of her life. I really didn't have much of a relationship with her, and while she was pretty harmless, she had a dark side. When she died, I went right out to California-not to pay my respects, but because my mother went there to tend to things, and I was not going to put her through that alone.

She has forgotten some of the shitty things that my grandmother did, and I guess that's the mind's way of coping with things, but it pretty much underscores the way things really are. You only go around once, make the most of it. I never saw the sense in being mean just because I could.

Hell no you don't want to go back to New Jersey!

[defiant_corpse]

Your Grandfather made choices that alienated him from your family, maybe now he regrets the error of his ways. This would be a great time to tie up any unresolved issues, to let him know how his actions affected you. The act of confession and possibly forgiving can be a great release. Then again, I have had some family members who were miserable souls right to the bitter end and I have felt the "They deserved it" thing.