Relationships

[deej25]

Why is it that we have such a need and desire to be in a relationship? What is it that is put in us that makes us feel like we're not whole or we haven't arrived yet if we're not in a relationship? Is it the media? Is it our family? Our faith? Our church? Or is it just something built in us that truly says, "It is not good for man to be alone!"?

Comments

[ladolce_kate]

*hug* I have a friend who is kind of going through the same thing. Has he explained to you why he is resistant? Maybe resistant isn't the right word but you know what I mean. Was it that he wasn't brought up in the church or did he just walk away from it for various reasons?

It is incredibly difficult to find a good Christian man who will understand our position on abstinence, etc. But it is also just as hard to find a good man. Josh seems to be a good man. I know you would like someone who holds the same religious beliefs as you but why is it a deal breaker? I'm just curious because of how great a guy he is. Is he a spiritual person but not a church-goer?

[deej25]

Everything that makes me who I am is because of the Lord. He is my core. I know that if I have a problem, I can turn to the Lord for guidance and he'll help me. Being in a relatioship with someone who doesn't believe that same thing is just going to add stress because he's looking at me and I'm looking up for the answer. We need to both be looking up!

I've tried his world, now it's time for him to try mine and if in a month or two he feels the same way in my world as I do in his, then we know we're not going to work out, but at least we can both walk away knowing that we did all that we could. The only problem is that him not having sex is just so huge that he feels like he's done his part in compromising. But, for a women there's just so much more to making a relationship work then sex.

[ladolce_kate]

It's completely understandable. If he thinks no sex is the extent of his compromise, I would have a problem too. Too many people assume that once you reach a certain age, everyone is having sex. When they end up in a relationship where sex is not the main activity, they think they are making a huge sacrifice. Relationships are more than physical intimacy. If you can't base a relationship on core values, then you don't really have a relationship.

I'm sure it will be hard for you if it doesn't work out but as long as you are happy, that's all that matters.