Dilemma...

[degenerate13]

I know I don't post here anymore, mostly because I have another blog through msn.spaces. But I have come back, so I can post about this problem I am having, and maybe one of my old friends can help me out

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[il_sussurro]

Well, Sean, I'd say that you shouldn't resign yourself to "letting her go" until the two of you have talked seriously about what you both want. I think it's clear that you still want to be with her, and the thought of giving her up sounds painful. The question is what she wants. If in fact she is interested in exploring her sexuality, to the extent that she's willing to sacrifice what she has with you--this assumes that she cannot be involved simultaneously with you and another girl, or that you (understandably) don't want her to be--then I think your current relationship with her cannot endure. For a functional monogamous relationship, each partner has to be totally committed to the other. Curiosity is one thing; interest is another. You both need to tell the other what you want. If she decides that she has to try being with a girl, there's nothing that you can do; I know that it can be incredibly painful, but you'll have to let her go. And if she does go, keep in contact, see how she's doing, let her know you're there for her, but

[degenerate13]

Thanks a lot Ryan, it's always good to hear from you, and you definitely helped me out. It's good to know you'll always be there for me man. You are my hetero life partner for sure. I'm thankful for your words of wisdom, and I am pretty sure I will not break it off just to be selfish. She is in no interest in leaving me right now, and tells me she loves me and that she can't love anyone else. Sometimes I just need a little reminder to listen to everything. I concentrate on the negative and it just doesn't end up helping me. I go over the bad news and the worse news, and leave little for the good in my head. Thanks again. Love you man.

[lowend57]

you know, ive been through something...kind of similar. with santosh, i had never been with anybody else. i wanted to know what it was like. turns out it fucking sucks. perhaps right now she just doesnt realize that you can't go giving away a good thing in hopes that something "better" will come along. because there really isnt anything better than a good thing, and youre a fucking awesome guy (even if you dont call me or come watch me take my clothes off). has she had sex with a girl before? cuz maybe she wouldnt even like it. maybe she should experiment physically before she experiments emotionally.
i dont know. this is a tuffy. sorry bud...