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demiga

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Jul 13, 2006 21:37

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060711/ap_on_re_us/the_lies_we_tell

White lies - justified or no?

I do it all the time...certain people cannot handle reality, and so it must be kept from them whenever possible.

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stupercow July 14 2006, 11:47:34 UTC

these days a majority also believe premarital sex is permissible.

demiga July 14 2006, 18:37:26 UTC

are you comparing white lies to premarital sex?

tolandruth July 14 2006, 19:13:06 UTC

there is a thread of connection between the two. Saying, "White lie" is the same as "lying." You're jsut trying to sugar coat it so it doesn't sound so harsh. If I call you a liar then you get offended because that name tags you as a dishonest person and its a scarlet letter for anyone who knows you.

Really, saying a "white lie" is just someone trying to down play their actions in order to avoid the full brint of their consequences.

I do it all the time...certain people cannot handle reality, and so it must be kept from them whenever possible.

Why say a lie? or anything at all? Divert them to an understanding of their question. Tell them directly "I do not think you can handle this reality." Or Tell them what you know and let God handle them, if it be a spiritual matter. If its a relationalship problem then take the consequences.

White lies are used, ultiimately, in selfish ways because they are used to guard ourselves from consequences, string people along, falsify information, or divert attention. This is open to sharpening.

demiga July 14 2006, 20:54:11 UTC

Or, it could be that a person is beyond hope of changing their ways, and must be approached in a certain ... somewhat deceitful manner, in order to preserve their peace of mind, and one's own.

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tblackwynd July 21 2006, 10:00:04 UTC

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painful_honesty July 21 2006, 16:23:19 UTC

Not justified. Do you not know that twisting reality to suit yourself is self-deception? And twisting reality to suit others is deceiving them and a tool of Satan to let them think theyre ok - therefore contributing to their destruction? Do you want to contribute to others' destruction ( ... )

demiga July 21 2006, 18:11:08 UTC

I'm sorry if after 20 years of knowing someone I find that a person hasn't changed one bit and there is not even a hint that they will.

My idealism is at an all time low, and one of the things I have especially grown to despise is when someone (illustratively speaking) slaps a big Jesus sticker on a problem and expects everything to turn out okay.

Reality isn't that simple - we are forced to make choices every day that go against the ideal image of what a Christian is, and does (even if we don't realize we are making said choices), and it is held against us because we are simply doing what we have to do to get by.

Grace doesn't appear as pretty when its presented as a hand preventing the pendulum from eventually slicing you to pieces - in all honesty, there shouldn't be a pendulum there to begin with.

Just for fun, i'll give you a situation as an example:Let us say that I get into a minor car accident. If I relayed this news to Person X, not only would they not be able to change the fact that it happened nor would their ( ... )

painful_honesty July 21 2006, 23:54:24 UTC

What you described isnt a white lie though.

Reality isn't that simple - we are forced to make choices every day that go against the ideal image of what a Christian is, and does (even if we don't realize we are making said choices), and it is held against us because we are simply doing what we have to do to get by.I used to use this same philosophy and justification the almost the whole time I was a dancer. I was just doing what I do to, to get by. After all, I had a child to support and was $600 short every month on bills...I had to do something to get by right ( ... )