There's nothing wrong with self-loathing as long as it isn't to the point of being dangerous. We all look at ourselves and see something we wish we could change and/or make better. I find it's things about my life I wish to change, not necessarily myself.We all have our goals
Nice to hear from you, even if it's on this decrepit thing known as LJ. Practically no one on my friend's list posts anymore and I puke at the thought of getting a FB. Keep moving forward.
Oh hey, people still do look at livejournal. Who knew? (I didn't!)
LJ has all these weird new features and beefed up comment stuff going on now. Could've used this years ago!
I was thinking just today that it's probably not just me me, but my situation and things in my life other than the physical that I should work harder at changing. But those things I haven't been able to change and make better are like things linked to monetary things. Life's a process, leveling up, so to speak, one step at a time?
Just enough introspection to examine blind spots seen in one by others is fine. Too much introspection feels like hard work, it uses up energy needed for zooming instantly into being who you want to be.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself, but I don't know if it's necessarily good to hate yourself? It's been a while since I've seen/talked to you, obviously, but from what I last saw of you, you had made massively positive changes. That's something to be proud of, and I wish I had your self-discipline.
I don't think that the person you were ever really goes away. You go through life and have unpleasant reminders of who you used to be. The best thing to do is try and forgive yourself and keep on going.
That makes 200% more people I know than I thought who stilled looked at LJ. Dang.
It's not necessarily bad to hate yourself either. I figure if you're going to juggle with the issue of liking or disliking yourself then that becomes a bigger issue. Embrace the idea and accept it so you can move on. I mean, hating to the point of harming, no, that's not my sort of use of the word "hate". Just hating doesn't equal hurting or killing. You can hurt or kill without hate and vice versa, yeah?
The "you" doesn't go away, but it does change. There's no going back to what you were, you can remember, but your experiences scar your old self into something else. It's up to you to decide if those scars are bad-ass looking to be admired, or to cover up and be ashamed of. I can't make analogies work well.
Thanks, hope the married life is suiting you. I think you were working for a bank last we spoke? Hope that's evolved into something great.
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Nice to hear from you, even if it's on this decrepit thing known as LJ. Practically no one on my friend's list posts anymore and I puke at the thought of getting a FB. Keep moving forward.
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LJ has all these weird new features and beefed up comment stuff going on now. Could've used this years ago!
I was thinking just today that it's probably not just me me, but my situation and things in my life other than the physical that I should work harder at changing. But those things I haven't been able to change and make better are like things linked to monetary things. Life's a process, leveling up, so to speak, one step at a time?
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Break through the introspection and go into action, is what you're telling me?
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself, but I don't know if it's necessarily good to hate yourself? It's been a while since I've seen/talked to you, obviously, but from what I last saw of you, you had made massively positive changes. That's something to be proud of, and I wish I had your self-discipline.
I don't think that the person you were ever really goes away. You go through life and have unpleasant reminders of who you used to be. The best thing to do is try and forgive yourself and keep on going.
Hope everything else is going well for you.
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It's not necessarily bad to hate yourself either. I figure if you're going to juggle with the issue of liking or disliking yourself then that becomes a bigger issue. Embrace the idea and accept it so you can move on. I mean, hating to the point of harming, no, that's not my sort of use of the word "hate". Just hating doesn't equal hurting or killing. You can hurt or kill without hate and vice versa, yeah?
The "you" doesn't go away, but it does change. There's no going back to what you were, you can remember, but your experiences scar your old self into something else. It's up to you to decide if those scars are bad-ass looking to be admired, or to cover up and be ashamed of. I can't make analogies work well.
Thanks, hope the married life is suiting you. I think you were working for a bank last we spoke? Hope that's evolved into something great.
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