What have i been up to?

[demons_prey]

Ok well last update id just more or less found out i was expecting and decided to go my separate ways with uber_cyborg (boyfriend and baby's daddy. Well some things have changed some things ain't. Im still no wiser as to what I'm supposed to do with my life although it seems that i, in my mad rush for answers may have got a few things wrong about what exactly

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[catharsisqueen]

I don't think you should move while pregnant - the stress alone is enough! Plus you can't bet on anything right now as he is all over the place and its so much better to stay near your family at a time like this

cheers honey x

[demons_prey]

Aw thanks dawn. It does help to hear what other people think and i agree on everything. I think to be honest im just going to stay where i am as far as living in nelson goes. It might be in the middle of nowhere but nothing is perfect is it. Most important thing is the babys and my health and the happiness of xavier and malakai, plus realistically i dont think i could move etc in 6 month even if i wanted to. Thanks for the advice chick and its god to know ya there xx

Re: cheers honey x

[catharsisqueen]

I may not see you all the time it doesn't mean that I don't read your posts and think about you.

You have to look after yourself and your gorgeous sons. He'll get over himself and realise its not so scary when he holds the baby. He is genetically programmed to protect it!!

He can't stay mad at you for an innocent baby!

You are still just as sexy and beautiful as ever and still the person he fell in love with (even though the hormones can be a little funky right now!!)

xxx

[takerslover]

nothing saying you have to do anything right now my cuz sit and wait and see how u feel later on.you know im always here if you move over here il be there for you as always.schools over here are great well the one my kids are at is they love it and i have no worries about it whatsoever. there are also catholic schools if thats what you want right near my house in fact lol.but the end of the day its up to you.i dont want to sound like im pushing you but you know my opinions on nelson.i think it sucks people in and doesnt let em go i was and still am glad i managed to get out.just wished mum and nan had done it.but it is also where you feel safe and secure as its where you were born and your used to i understand all that aswel all i can promise you is that wherever you go il always be there for you and the kids.xxxxx
love ya x

[demons_prey]

Thanks chuck. I just want to do what best for me, the kids, the new baby and otto but unfortunatly non of them would benefit from the same thing and he dont want to m,ove city or move in so im going to have to make all the changes and im not sure what the best thing is? xxxx maybe time wil help x

[takerslover]

it should just dont rush things wait til your ready and strong enough

[x_xsweetiex_x]

I know i don't know either of you, but i'm a single Mum of three too. And if you think i'm sticking mi oar in...please tell me to fuck off! *laugh*
I think from the sounds of it, he's coming round to the idea. Once the little one is born, and he gets to hold him/her, then you'll see it....you'll see exactly how he feels. Then you'll know.
He's probably all over the place at the moment, as i'm sure you are too. *hugs*
I think at the moment you should stay around the people who can support you daily, and see what happens when the little person is here. *smile*
Just my two cents worth...i'll bog off now!

I wish you luck though Missis!
*great big hug*
Laura.

xxx

[demons_prey]

i Know exactly what your saying and yes it does help. I suppose the pregnancy hormones dont help do they though? Im desperate to lay down plans for the future and nest like mad lol im sure you have been there. I think all i do have on my side is time. Like i say i do love him and want it to work but im desperate for some security or something to make me feel more secure. I didnt intend to be a single mum to 2 but hte divorce was inevitable and now another is on the way im despairing. I always though if i had more lkids it would be in the context of a caring relationship, i was sure id learnt from my previous mistakes but yet again i have fucked up and made a mess of mine and the little ones lives. All i can do is try my best to be a good mum and do the right thing by them. Like i say thatnks for the advice honey xxx

[eleseth]

Hey hun. Like everyone said its prob best to do nothing until u r sure what u want for u and kiddies. least things are ok where u are now so theres no great need to move. Sounds like Otto was dead shocked at first, and now he's mulling it over and getting used to the idea. its just lame that u have to wait for someone else to sort themselves out before you can settle urself. you should just chill as much as poss while u r pregnant and let things work themselves out over time. u can make changes later if you want to.i dont think u have made a mess of things! u sound like a good mum, always considering ur boys!xxxxx

[demons_prey]

i know babes. general way of thinking is that the kids are the most iportant thing which i have to agree with. I cant just up and move them all over to suit other people. I'll be here for him but thats all i can do really.

[eleseth]

p.s i know we dont know each other much , and i hope u dont mind me commenting. i admire u the way u are trying to cope!

[demons_prey]

thanks hun, quitting aint an option is it though lol xx