Till the Cow Comes Home
I met another guy, again through a social network site. The schools I attended weren't listed but he hazarded a very close guess based on my responses to his questions and my answers to some profile questions. His answer was rather interesting when I made him tell me how he deduced my background.
He was quite fun to talk to on the phone, so I accepted his invitation to lunch. On hindsight, I should have picked up on certain things in our initial conversation and asked more questions even before meeting up. On the phone, he'd said that he wanted a serious relationship and was looking to "settle down" and didn't want to "play any games", so wanted to be upfront about things. That was fine with me.
We met for lunch. The conversation over lunch was a tad surreal. He mentioned that single women in their 30s were quite distinct from those in their 20s. They were less excited about getting married, usually quite (financially) independent, seemed quite cynical/jaded and were more open to casual encounters (f***buddies). He then started to talk about his sexual experience, the women he's met (and had sex with) and asked me about my sexual proclivities. I refused to go into that line of conversation. I explained that it's one of those taboo subjects only to be discussed with close friends I'm very comfortable with. He tried to press me into it. I got annoyed and was more than happy to leave by then.
Before we parted ways, I did ask what he was looking for in a wife, just out of curiosity. He clearly hadn't thought through what he wanted. Although he did bring up a requirement (nothing to do with sex) which made it clear to me that we weren't suited at all.
He is a Singaporean Chinese male in his 30s. Are Asian men really that different from counterparts elsewhere?
One thing I learned from this: never make sexual innuendos (on a profile), even in jest. Some men might just take it the wrong way.
He was quite fun to talk to on the phone, so I accepted his invitation to lunch. On hindsight, I should have picked up on certain things in our initial conversation and asked more questions even before meeting up. On the phone, he'd said that he wanted a serious relationship and was looking to "settle down" and didn't want to "play any games", so wanted to be upfront about things. That was fine with me.
We met for lunch. The conversation over lunch was a tad surreal. He mentioned that single women in their 30s were quite distinct from those in their 20s. They were less excited about getting married, usually quite (financially) independent, seemed quite cynical/jaded and were more open to casual encounters (f***buddies). He then started to talk about his sexual experience, the women he's met (and had sex with) and asked me about my sexual proclivities. I refused to go into that line of conversation. I explained that it's one of those taboo subjects only to be discussed with close friends I'm very comfortable with. He tried to press me into it. I got annoyed and was more than happy to leave by then.
Before we parted ways, I did ask what he was looking for in a wife, just out of curiosity. He clearly hadn't thought through what he wanted. Although he did bring up a requirement (nothing to do with sex) which made it clear to me that we weren't suited at all.
He is a Singaporean Chinese male in his 30s. Are Asian men really that different from counterparts elsewhere?
One thing I learned from this: never make sexual innuendos (on a profile), even in jest. Some men might just take it the wrong way.