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[depot2005]

I found out today that my grandma (my mom's mom) has like 6 or 7 months left to live.  The saddest part of it all, is that my aunt and uncles' including my mom, have not told her anything.  She knows that she had cancer like 30 years ago, but she doesn't know that it came back and doesn't know how far its gotten or how rapidly its spreading

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[dark_magician96]

My Grandma called me the other day and told me she needs to go on dialysis just like my other grandma had to do. Only this grandma has it a lot worse. My grandma won't live much longer either and hers without a question will be full of small and painful misery every day for a few years.

But I am sorry about your own grandmother. I think they, your mom and aunt, need to tell your grandmother what's going on and let her decided for herself. It's her life and she's not 5. Let her do with it as she pleases. Her life not your mom's and her sister's.

I can't offer any advice or anything but I do hope that your mom and aunt realize they need to step back and accept your grandmothers choice no matter what it is.

But if you ever need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, I'm hear for yeah babe.

*HUGS* Don't worry, everything will be otay!

[depot2005]

Awww...thank you SO much for always being there! It's very much appreciated...words cannot express my gratitude.

And you're right, they should tell my grandmother. My dad and I have been trying to convince my mom to do it, but she won't. And she won't because, this is what she always says, "My mom is very negative. If she finds out that the cancer has spread, she'll want her life to end right then and there". This is my dad's argument "You HAVE to tell her to allow her time to think about all the wrong things she's done in her life time and in that time, forgive some people and apologize to many. She needs this time to reflect before its too late and she's doing it on her death bed". My mom just stays quiet after that. I just stare at whatever's in front of me.

*HUGS*

[dark_magician96]

Ugh, that sounds like it sucks. But what can you do? You and your dad are trying. Must be hard for your mom. In the end though, I bet she'll tell your grandma. It'll be okay. Things will work themselves out.

*yawn* I'm gonna take a nap now. Me no feel buena at all. I think I'm getting sick. great......

*HUGS* Love yeah sweetie!

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[depot2005]

*GREAT BIG SUSAN HUG* Again, thank you. I couldn't keep it together this morning and totally cried my eyes out with Luis. He was sweet. He listened and lend his shoulder to cry on. I feel a little better now, but every now and then, I think about it and my eyes get watery. Like now...