Comments | der_cibble: The best part about being gay!

der_cibble

The best part about being gay!

Mar 02, 2006 22:59

Funny how a day after I finally accept the fact that I am totally gay, my mum ALSO finds out I'm gay ( Read more... )

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ghosty4 March 3 2006, 07:09:32 UTC

Eh, be straight until you can move out. It's not like she's gonna make you bring a girl to Holiday gatherings or anything.

der_cibble March 3 2006, 16:43:36 UTC

Heh, you don't know my mum that well. She flat-out said that if I'm not gay, then I have a year to find a girl and marry her.

ghosty4 March 4 2006, 00:22:12 UTC

So, you have a year to save up money and move out! ;)

castamir March 3 2006, 11:17:51 UTC

That's harsh. But your parents are big Christians right? Is it a religion thing?

If it is that can be hard to get around, if they think that's more important than you then you don't owe them anything, the rules have changed, in which case do what you got to do to get by, lie to them, tell them what they need to know, until you can stand on your own two feet.

If it's just shock - then she'll probably chill out a little over time. Maybe. Speaking as a parent myself, I can't imagine a situation where I'd actually do something like that, for any reason.

der_cibble March 3 2006, 16:44:08 UTC

Nope, I don't think it's shock. My mum has known for ages, she just never accepted it.

boywondermark March 3 2006, 14:32:01 UTC

I'll probably catch flack for this, BUT...tell her what she wants to hear until you can move out comfortably!

You won't be lying to yourself, hon! You know who you are...be proud of it! If your mom can't handle it right now, let her and yourself off of the hook...no biggie. (A little secret- Moms don't control or have any business knowing about our sex lives!).

Life can be tough, Andy...make this as easy on yourself as possible...k?

twisted_sword March 3 2006, 15:14:23 UTC

How did she find out you were gay? o.O

Lie, and lie like you have never lied before about being straight.

littleshebear March 3 2006, 15:53:48 UTC

Shit, I'm sorry. This is a toughie.

I don't know what I'd do in this situation. Is it a religious thing? If that were the case I'd probably say to your mother "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone" and "judge not lest ye be judged." But that might be a leetle provocative...

She might calm down. Give it a day or so and then try and talk to her, sit her down with a cup of tea and hash it all out.

In case the worst-case scenario happens (that you decide you can't pretend and you have to move out), start preparing now. Do you have friends you can crash with for a few weeks?

Good luck. *hugs*

der_cibble March 3 2006, 16:45:01 UTC

I'm trying to see now if I have anyone I can crash with. I have one friend whom I think was semi-serious, and my sister in Washington offered, as well.

tiny_terror March 4 2006, 03:05:55 UTC

As I said on Blacksheep--if your path leads you to Oregon, let me know and we'll get you squeezed into this house somehow.

In the meantime, if you need anything at all, *do not* hesitate to ask me. If it's in my power, it's yours.

Check your e-mail.