Awwww ... chin up, Nessy!charlottesmtmsJune 15 2009, 23:33:58 UTC
I totally get where you're coming from. At least i *hope* I do ...
It's wonderful to give and give and give (i.e. love and love and love), but when you start feeling resentful, then you have to investigate the reasons why you give (love). Any feeling of resentment would indicate that, deep down you're not feeling it back, which would indicate that there is a part of yourself that wants at least *some* form of reciprocation (hence the 'martyr' symdrome).
Love truly and freely given is just that, and then you move along, letting the reciprocant do with said gift in whatever manner he/she/they choose. In the meantime, the act, in and of itself, should be payment enough for your soul.
I'm afraid that all I can offer, in terms of comfort, is a *cyberhug* but understand that it truly comes from the best place, and that I hope you find your way to happier times.
sometimes i feel old and think it's because i've lost parts of myself that i can never get back, but maybe it's just that i realize that there is so much that is possible to have that it makes me feel lacking. i guess that's why i'm such a collector.
there are few real martyrs these days. martyr syndrome is fraught with selfishness, whether or not it is intended.
being a martyr is like being a hipster...once you say you are one, you aren't anymore.
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It's wonderful to give and give and give (i.e. love and love and love), but when you start feeling resentful, then you have to investigate the reasons why you give (love). Any feeling of resentment would indicate that, deep down you're not feeling it back, which would indicate that there is a part of yourself that wants at least *some* form of reciprocation (hence the 'martyr' symdrome).
Love truly and freely given is just that, and then you move along, letting the reciprocant do with said gift in whatever manner he/she/they choose. In the meantime, the act, in and of itself, should be payment enough for your soul.
I'm afraid that all I can offer, in terms of comfort, is a *cyberhug* but understand that it truly comes from the best place, and that I hope you find your way to happier times.
***GREAT BIG HUGS***
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there are few real martyrs these days. martyr syndrome is fraught with selfishness, whether or not it is intended.
being a martyr is like being a hipster...once you say you are one, you aren't anymore.
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