A family visit

[devianttouch]

I was in a pretty terrible mood this week. Monday through Wed I was cranky, lonely, frustrated, and generally kind of depressed. But I was really looking forward to Thanksgiving when I would go to Milwaukee and see my family, and especially my brother who I only get to see on very rare occasions

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friendly offer

[naughtyaelf]

actually, you don't have to go to Milwaukee for christmas. I'm staying home with my kid and my fiance. Plus the dogs and cats, but whatevs - the point is, you can come stay with us. I make killer eggnog, and ham and turkey, and the house will be full of food and nice people.

so, yeah, man. family can suck sometimes. that's why we have friends. :)

Re: friendly offer

[devianttouch]

The thing is that I DO have to go home for Christmas. I don't want to set an even worse idea that I don't belong there by not turning up for a holiday. I'll go, and I'll be a TON more careful to keep the conversation topics as light as possible. And at least this time I know not to be excited about it.

Plus, they DO tend to give good gifts.

Re: friendly offer

[naughtyaelf]

ok, as long as you have it all worked out. :) but we're here for you when you get back to town and need a stiff drink and good company. ok?

Re: friendly offer

[devianttouch]

I very well might take you up on that.

[jinxedkisses]

That's harsh, I'm sorry this thanksgiving was so stressful for you.

[crabmoon]

Wow. I can't believe you didn't just storm out. And i cant believe that your family doesn't see the desperate need for you to be accepted. Uncondictional love, what they never heard of it?

[nerdwerds]

While my family has never been that emotionally absent for me, I still disowned them and severed my ties to them because I knew being around them was unhealthy for me. If you can learn to let go, I think you'll be a lot happier if you just decide that your genetic relatives are not worth your time and energy.

[devianttouch]

1) They're not my genetic relatives. I'm adopted. But I understand your point.

2) I don't want to cut them out of my life. I do want to learn to be way less sensitive to their BS.

[nerdwerds]

2) If I may paraphrase the Dread Pirate Roberts, then it sounds like you should get accustomed to disappointment. I have the same kind of love-disappointment in my family, and I remain in contact with them regularly but I don't go out of my way for them. It's a one-way street, to paraphrase another movie.

[nidea]

ugh, that sucks. we're here around xmas time (Chanukah too; starts 12/1) if you wanna chill.