30 days meme: Day 2, "First love"

[devoken]

Emily

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[devoken]

Well, one of the meanings of Emily is "flatterer." Sometimes it's easy to fall for someone who talks of your good qualities.

I look back at stories, too, and I don't miss what was there... but it takes me a while to get that perspective. I'm slow when it comes to understanding and articulating my own feelings, and I think that's a part of why I need time.

[coraline]

thank you for writing this. i hope you keep writing. i'm enjoying reading :)

[devoken]

Thank you for writing that! The next day's essay is already done, so you've at least got me for another day.

[beowabbit]

As coraline said, thanks for writing this.Even if it had been possible, I wouldn't have gone back. A person only gets one romantic relationship with me.
Interesting. I see how this works if I am the one doing the breaking up. Presumably, if I’ve decided I don’t want to be in a relationship any more (and it’s not situational), I’m going to keep feeling that way. But I’ve never had anybody dump me whom I wouldn’t have been happy to get back together with, at least until life turned one or the other of us into somewhat different people. But I’ve probably had a somewhat more fluid notion of relationships than you do; over the years I’ve had lots of relationships start out as solid close friendships, become romantic and sexual relationships, and go back to being close friendships - occasionally more than once. And sometimes I’ve had a relationship hover close to that line and drift back and forth across it with very little drama. (Mind you, sometimes there’s been lots of drama. :-)

[devoken]

Huh. That's pretty interesting timing, because I was just thinking that the "one romantic relationship" thing can really only work if I'm the dumpee. If my reasoning for it is that we can't get back together because the other person hasn't properly considered whether or not they really don't want to be with me, my dumping someone doesn't really apply. After all, it's not the other person who hasn't considered the consequences.

[caulay]

As others have said, thank you for writing this and I hope you continue.

A person only gets one romantic relationship with me.

I've know several people who say that and everyone has a different reason. I find that interesting.

[devoken]

hmmm. Interesting commonality. Clearly, we should do a study. :)

[rustycoon]

Oh high school... my first two attempts (failed in both) at a relationship were similarly fraught.

*hug!*

[devoken]

High school relationships can indeed be fraught. That's why they're so much fun to recount later!

[swashbucklr]

The high school rustycoon and I attended was definitely fraught.