Need some advice

[dfw_collective]

OK here is bascially the easy rundown. I have been with a guy for about two years, I had no problems with trust, I thought we were committed and I didn't see him as a dishonest person. I was just reccently informed that right before we decided to take the next step to move in together he slept with two girls, more than once with each of them within

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[anonymous]

That is hard. My basic way of looking at it is...If you can't trust the person it's really hard to still be in a relationship with them. If you need a more complicated answer like why he did it or why he told you now? I don't really know, but if he won't at giving you answers when you need them and such well doesn't sound like he told you for any positive reason.

[kozmosis]

ouch. i agree that this is tough position that you are in. perhaps i am being overly cautious, but i worry that if they do it once, it may happen again regardless of living together or not.

based solely on what you have said in your post, which i am sure doesnt even begin to sum up your relationship with this guy, i say that you need to get out of it. you can get yourself removed from the lease or he can find a roomie to fill your spot on the lease if you choose to leave.

you cant have a fully functional relationship w/o trust. and if you think that you can trust him again, stay, but make sure that your decision is made with your head and not your heart. that pesky thing will bite you in the ass if you are not paying attention.

good luck.

[very]

how much longer on the lease? and yes, you should be upset. that's pretty fucked up. i agree with the first reply. once trust is shaken or lost it's hard to get back to what you once had. if that's even possible. will your parents let you back on their tab (if you want/need it that is)? can you find a full-time job? things are shitty now but it's not the end of the world. people have been dealing with shitty boyfriends since the beginning of time...

[anonymous]

I don't think you are in as bad a position as you are thinking. You did make a bad step by moving in with said boy even after he told you he cheated on you. I mean, and it's not like he only did it once with one chick...TWO CHICKS and more than once with both of them!? WTF?! He knows that you will still be with him after doing something like that, so he will definitely do it again. If he loved you so much or cared, he wouldnt' have done it in the first place. You don't have as much commitment as you think because he obviously doesn't care enough to be faithful, so I say get the hell out of there. You shouldn't have moved in together in the first place. Your mom and dad will always be there for you even though they may not like that guy. If you put your foot down and decide to leave, I am sure that moving back home is an option......

[iheartbigbooty]

Break up and move out.