From Robert

[diluvian]

Going into day two and not feeling much better. Everything thing I do, almost all that I did except for things at work or Jen's beta/fic/LJ and my political/pron/web surfing, we did together. Even the last two sets of items, while we did them in different rooms sometimes, just being in the same house was a big deal. Whenever she went away for a

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[tesserae_]

Do you have friends around you? The reason I'm asking is that a close friend of mine lost his wife very suddenly this summer, and we all tried to spend the first couple of weeks with him so that he'd have someone to talk to. And it seemed to help, as much as anything can; there were a lot of memories shared, lots of pictures looked at and stories told, and he had some practical help from his really close friends in dealing with aquaintances and phone calls and that sort of thing. If you've got someone who's prepared to listen & *not* to try to make you feel better it might help.

You know, you've got that here with Jen's friends, it seems to me...

[jay_jay]

Hey darlin',

You don't know me, but I liked Jen very much, she was good friend and we shared interests outside of fandom and I'm very so very sorry for your loss. I don't have much to offer you, and I'm far away, but if you need anything I could possibly do, please don't hesitate to ask. My email is jacynrebekah at yahoo dot com. I hope you are able to weather this tragedy and find peace again eventually.

[celli]

I wish I had the right thing to say for you, but I don't. She was very special to me, and I'm going to miss her a lot.

I know this is a cliche, but if you can, I hope you can remember to take care of yourself as much as possible. If nothing else, I find that the mechanics of remembering to drink enough water and eat and try to sleep gives me something to occupy my time with.

[kp_mushu]

*sends hugs*

You are not alone. Aside from all of Jen's friends, all *your* friends are also here for you.

Know that she was (and is) well loved by so many people.

[phoebesmum]

You're in the initial stages of shock at the moment. It's horrible, I know. The best I can tell you is that it does get better. You will always miss the people you lose, how could you not, but eventually, I find, you no longer feel it like a raw wound 24/7. Try to keep people around you and, please, keep talking.

[danjite]

The useful things have all been said. Keep seeing the therapist. Hurt. Mourn.

I haven't seen you in years- last time was at a hockey game at San Mateo where Jenn and I chatted the the stands while you played. 2002? I dunno. I can't offer to come help or come support- I have lived in Thailand for a couple of years now.

She was, indeed, a special lass and she loved you madly. We mourn your loss with you.

There just ain't words.