For the foreseeable future I am going to use Jen's LJ account to post things-mostly about what I am going through and what is going with final arrangements
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I have been away from LJ lately and just saw this. I'm still in shock. I'm so sorry. I only met her once but she was one of the people who makes you say, "See, fandom's not so bad, not when there are people like her in it!" I mean - she only met ME once but she commented in my LJ and she was wise and funny and caring. I'm so sorry.
I'm long time friends with Jodi & Allyn, and met Jen through them, through LJ.
I had lunch with Jen a couple of times, and I met you once about a year ago, when we had a simple dinner at your place. I always thought I'd get to know Jen more, better. I'm glad you're using her journal. It keeps some connection to her alive.
By the way, I am local, and once your family has left, if having someone there will help, I am happy to come over and spend time with you, or have you over here, or meet in between. You don't have to be light and happy for me - I've been through the dark places, know much of their terrain, and it takes a lot for them to scare me. And I'm happy to listen to stories about Jen, or be as much of a distraction as I can manage, whichever works better for you at that moment.
I don't have contact info for you, though. If you'd like, you can reach me at plantgirl at gmail dot com.
Robert, I didn't know Jen and only learned about this through a friend of mine, but I read through your last posts and they really touched my heart. You've got an open and frank way to talk about things that move you, while being considerate and modest in your continuation of your notices in this journal, and it impressed me; I'm wishing you all the strength you'll need in the next time. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm glad to see that you seem to have people around you who care for you, including Jen's friends who care for you as much as they cared for her. I don't know you, but I'd like to get to know you better, because you seem to be a kind and precious person, which is probably why Jen must have loved you the way she did. It is natural to feel lost and to hurt in your situation, and the pain might accompany you for a while to come. I would like to offer you my support when you ever need it, and because I'm too far away to be there, I can only offer to be here, online, as weird as it may sound considering that I'm a stranger.
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I'm long time friends with Jodi & Allyn, and met Jen through them, through LJ.
I had lunch with Jen a couple of times, and I met you once about a year ago, when we had a simple dinner at your place. I always thought I'd get to know Jen more, better. I'm glad you're using her journal. It keeps some connection to her alive.
By the way, I am local, and once your family has left, if having someone there will help, I am happy to come over and spend time with you, or have you over here, or meet in between. You don't have to be light and happy for me - I've been through the dark places, know much of their terrain, and it takes a lot for them to scare me. And I'm happy to listen to stories about Jen, or be as much of a distraction as I can manage, whichever works better for you at that moment.
I don't have contact info for you, though. If you'd like, you can reach me at plantgirl at gmail dot com.
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I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm glad to see that you seem to have people around you who care for you, including Jen's friends who care for you as much as they cared for her. I don't know you, but I'd like to get to know you better, because you seem to be a kind and precious person, which is probably why Jen must have loved you the way she did. It is natural to feel lost and to hurt in your situation, and the pain might accompany you for a while to come. I would like to offer you my support when you ever need it, and because I'm too far away to be there, I can only offer to be here, online, as weird as it may sound considering that I'm a stranger.
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