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photogfrog in distant_hearts

LD to SD

Aug 21, 2008 12:12

While I am not SDR full time (one more year), I have been here for 6 weeks and have been getting my stuff sorted for moving here in a year. In this time, I have seen some of the possible glitches one can face when moving SD. I'm dealing with them well, I think, but some of them are taking me by surprise ( Read more... )

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bacchusella August 21 2008, 10:55:24 UTC

I'm going to have my fiance read this post, because he doesn't understand why even if we stay in the city where he's living (which thankfully happens to be my old stomping grounds), I would like to move to a brand new place. I have a little bit on my side because his current apartment increases rent every year and it will be too expensive next year when I move there for good.

However, he has been a SAINT about allowing me to store boxes and stuff there while I complete my clinical rotations and am basically a nomad.

I hope that things get better and wish you the best of luck!!!

photogfrog August 21 2008, 11:13:38 UTC

I've been sending boxes this year often and he's been great about that. I think it might be starting to REALLY sink in that OMG SHE WILL BE HERE FULL TIME OMG NO!!!!!!!!

somethingpirate August 21 2008, 13:45:43 UTC

When our LDR became a SDR after our wedding, I ended up in the same situation as you - moving into his town, his apartment, his life, his friends - because I had no friends here already. It was super-awkward at first, but only with the "his friends" part.

I'm sorry your SO seems to be having such a hard time adjusting to your presence. =(

photogfrog August 21 2008, 23:04:28 UTC

His friends is a whole other post/novel, but right now, it's ok. *whew*

He's adjusting pretty well and I wonder if part of his crustiness now is bc he knows I am leaving in 2 days.

somethingpirate August 21 2008, 23:10:11 UTC

Ahhhhh. This makes sense. Guys have a hard time expressing those emotions. =)

wordupyo August 21 2008, 14:06:45 UTC

Please don't take any offense to this, but your husband needs to grow up and stop acting like such a baby. You two are married. You have vowed to share your lives together forever and that includes sharing a freakin' bookcase. No wonder you feel like you're moving into *his* territory - he's certainly not doing anything to make you feel otherwise.

photogfrog August 21 2008, 23:03:30 UTC

He is aware of how is tone came off to me in that moment, as I said something the other day about me leaving stuff in boxes and not setting up. When he asked why, I reminded him. He felt pretty bad.

He's been more than welcoming, it's the minor moments (that sadly, happened a bit too often this week for him) that are making me see the less-than-perfect world view of my living here full time.