Question of the day

[divalor]

So if a guy refuses to tell you how many people he's slept with can we assume that
a) He's a player and doesn't want you to know how dirty he is
b) He's inexperienced and doesn't want you to think he's lame
c)Other

Thoughts please?

Comments

[phallicvic]

it could be any of the above. my advice: if the guy is a love interest, STOP ASKING HIM THIS QUESTION IMMEDIATELY. even if he tells you the truth you'll wonder if he's lying, so what's the point? it's a really really annoying question to field on the guy's end because you're basically setting up a verbal trap for him.

[e_ward]

good call, vic! take a man's opinion, lo, and never ask a guy this :) the important thing is that you feel comfortable being intimate AND that you take precautions to be safe. so if you want a bf to be tested for all STDs before doing anything sexually, i think that's way more important than knowing the exact number of people he's slept with. plus i know i wouldn't want a future bf knowing MY number, however low or high it is to them.

[chickwithmonkey]

Either way, don't sleep with him. If he's not ready to be honest, he's definitely not ready to sleep with you. I agree with phallicvic, stop asking, but not because it's a "trap" or an "annoying question" - neither of those things matter when you are considering sleeping with someone. Before you have sex, you need to be fully and completely honest about your entire sexual history. No details, of course, but since you are sleeping with everyone he's ever slept with, you do need to know some things about his former partners, and if he won't tell you, don't do it