dont worry about her i am going thru the same thing you finnaly get over them and then she pops back up just stay true to yourself and find someone else and with the sexuality it takes time lots and you will soon find the truith good luck on that
1.) I don't see what diffrence it makes if you are bi, lesbian or bi going through a lesbian phase or whatever... its not what sex the person is that you love that matters but that you love them and they love you back... so stop stressing and go with it. I know everyone is all about 'coming out of the closet' and shit like that these days but really the bottom line is that its no one's business but yours who you sleep with. As long as you are happy with someone I am sure no one will give a crap what sex they are and if anyone makes any snide remarks to the contrary we bust em in da nose an moves on
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If you're not attracted to guys at all, you're probably lesbian and just haven't completely come to realize it yet. For a while I thought I was, but then I figured out I get "moods" where for a period of time I'll be in the mood for one side and later on I'll be in the mood for another. It's weird.
Fuck labelling. You dont need to label yourself,hun. You are you. You are like no other. You and your feelings are different to others. You may find there are times when you are attracted to a man, and others a woman. You cant predict this, and I dont think you can rule out either. You'l be attracted to a person, not a gender. I think Ive gone off on one here. I think the point Im trying to make is dont confuse yourelf trying to conform to a label. Go with the flow.
As for the person from the past, I cant really comment because I know nothing of and Id hate for you to think I was prying. But please dont get upset about it. People do things for a reason, and most of the time for a reaction. If you dont want to know, be indifferent. Concentrate on your own life and your happiness. Im babbling again.
Basically, I agree with everything Mrs_Ralph. She knows what your going through and she's there to tlk to and confide in. But if you'd ever like an outsiders opinion/advice you know Im here for you, hun.
Thanks sweetie *hugs* I hate labeling myself, and just wish society didn't "require" us to label ourselves this, that, or the other...thank you so much for being here for me *hugs again*
i don't know if this will help, but i personally believe that sexuality is fluid... you are attracted to who you are attracted to at any given time in your life. sometimes it will include men and women, sometimes it will be one or the other exclusively or you may well only be attracted to one sex aesthetically or emotionally or physically but can enjoy all three with the other sex... if you start liking one sex or the other more or less then you did in the past, it does not necessarily mean what you felt in the past was a lie... it just means that is not who you are now, or in some cases that lately there simply has only been people from one sex around who you are attracted to... and attractions can shift back too... sometimes i think labels are bad for people because they can't possibly encompass the entire human experience, but we often feel that we need them to know ourselves... i think the best anyone can do for themselves is be honest with themselves and only start relationships with people they are attracted to... anyway, that's
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Meanwhile there is a 'recipe' for spiritual cleansing around here somewhere I will see if I can find it.
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If you could find that recipe, I would be eternally grateful...not that I'm not already :)
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I hope you figure things out though.
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You may find there are times when you are attracted to a man, and others a woman. You cant predict this, and I dont think you can rule out either. You'l be attracted to a person, not a gender. I think Ive gone off on one here. I think the point Im trying to make is dont confuse yourelf trying to conform to a label. Go with the flow.
As for the person from the past, I cant really comment because I know nothing of and Id hate for you to think I was prying. But please dont get upset about it. People do things for a reason, and most of the time for a reaction. If you dont want to know, be indifferent. Concentrate on your own life and your happiness. Im babbling again.
Basically, I agree with everything Mrs_Ralph. She knows what your going through and she's there to tlk to and confide in. But if you'd ever like an outsiders opinion/advice you know Im here for you, hun.
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Thank you so much...I was to the point of tearing my hair out the other night. Having another perspective on it helps a lot. *hugs*
Oh...and you'd wanna punch my ex in the face if you knew her ;)
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