OK, so I'm posting already...Geez.

[dixie_yankee]

Who the hell is this Spaceboy Zoom and why should he be nudging me to leave a post? Do you know, Squishy? Well, ok, Zoom, here's my post on what's been up- enjoy

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[medzor]

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The prot thickens.
At least I know it wasn't I.
I never say anything offensive.
Or, at the very least, everything I say is equally offensive.

[dixie_yankee]

You will notice that, unlike most times, I used some tack and did not name names (or even gender for that matter.) One thing you learn down here in the deep south is manners. I figure if the offending party feels like giving an explanation, it's up to him/her.

[medzor]

I will say this:
There were many unpleasant and snarky comments made about your wedding (I may have made a few myself...)

BUT

You should believe that it was love for you, a genuine fondness for your wife, and a general sense of goodness and hope for your union that kept these comments from being said to you directly.

[medzor]

That is unfortunate. I understand that most people I know are somewhat low mannered at times (me included). However, I feel that most times directness is the best approach. Especially if those snarky comments are made available to the world at large. You see, most times those open comments are found much later and one wonders, "what the hell? Are these friends or friends of Ceaser?"

[bubbas_brain]

Okay... Brotha John here to testify

[dixie_yankee]

Brutha John,
You are a wise man with a good heart.
I will email you with my snail mail address shortly.

I think I should speak for myself-- Lisa here

[ely_essay]

I appreciate this conversation... and Medzor and Brutha, thanks for the honesty. I'll shed a little light on the comments that were made so that you all have a clearer picture of what upset me (as I don't consider myself easily upset). the comments that were made (and I don't remember verbatim but I'll do my best) went a little somethin' like this

Re: I think I should speak for myself-- Lisa here

[swamp_squishy]

Speaking for myself, everything I said in my speech was completely sincere. The fact that our "family" is much smaller than the Levins probably fueled some of this. I am, and freely admit, protective of Shannon. Having said that, I really like you Lisa, and I know that you two are a great match. The weddding did not provide the best opportunity to express how mutual your relationship is. I'll be honest - it was a long day, lots of people, customs, and heat that I was not used to or comfortable with. I, and many of us, did not want Shannon to get lost in the whole wedding - and my speech reflected that desire

PS

[swamp_squishy]

I'm glad that we all can have this discussion and be honest - that too reveals the measure of character and friendship.

I also offer my butt for kicking for both the Mr. and Mrs. Levin, should that be desirable. Just as long as it's done in a loving manner (no steel toes).

Re: PS

[ely_essay]

Ehh I don't know if it's worth kicking butt. I really appreciate your honesty (as does Shannon, I'm sure). And it feels much better knowing that the non-mutuality of the wedding was a big part of people being "protective" of Shannon. From day one that I met Shannon's friends way back when I was always jealous of the family you have. I was overwhelmed (in a great way)with being welcomed into it right away and have never forgotten that. The time that passed in between my leaving for grad school/breaking up with Shannon and getting back together with Shannon unfotunately put distance between me and the friends that I had begun to make out of all of you. Somewhere I just assumed that we were all still friends, but i forget that you guys don't know me the way i know you... having kept in touch vicariously through Shannon. i always enjoy it emensely when I have an opportunity to be around you guys