What Makes a Date?

[dmlong]

I hung out with E the other day. We did a movie and a snack after. He paid for everything. And I was left wondering what it is that makes this not a date. What makes the difference between “dating” and “hanging out”? What is it that sets one person apart from another? And if “dating” and “hanging out” look exactly the same, how is anyone supposed

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[methlusa]

If you are acting the same as you were when you were dating, minus the physical activities, I'd say there was no actual relationship to begin with. Dating means the person's special, you do special things for them, or at least try to... I'd try and cintue to sound smart and experienced in this stuff but I'm pretty sick, so I'll just leave it at that :p

Also I think you should just generally avoid him, it seems hanging out and all that jazz is just making things worse. If you constantly pine after him and think of him romantically, why continue the 'show' of friendship? I know there are people you can be friends with, and people that you can't be friends with because of the way you think of them. It sucks that there're some people like that, but as far as I can tell it's the truth... or maybe I'm all fuzzy in the head from the meds/sick, you never know ^_^

[dmlong]

No, I think you are right. About the avoiding him. It's harder than it should be and I wish it wasn't. I do have my moments when I look at the "relationship" for what it really is and wonder why I'm so willing to settle for less than what I want (and deserve). I know it's taking me longer than the people who care about me would like it to, but it is coming. I think. I hope...

And PS: the it's not "the same as when you were dating, minus the physical activities". That's what makes things so confusing.