~ duodequadragesimus

[dofaye]

I never thought I'd say this, but I don't believe I understand women at all. I can't help but wonder if I've been making false assumptions about my sisters and mother as well.

I suppose this is the next thing to ask, then: How does one person learn to understand another? In theory, of course, since it's clear that I'm not meant for relationships.

Comments

[bitterpresent]

I guess you can try studying how they react to things, then put yourself in their place.

[dofaye]

Studying them? I don't think it's that simple, is it?

[bitterpresent]

It always works for me.

[dofaye]

Yes, but you're very different from me.

[paintedflavors]

Spend time with them. It'll come to you eventually. Stuff like that takes time.

Or there's always polyjuice, you know what they say about walking in someone else's shoes. Oh, ah nevermind I just remembered that's not allowed

[dofaye]

I suppose that's the obvious answer, although it doesn't account for the people one can spend time with and still not understand.

[irisfragrance]

That would depend on your assumptions but they're your family, I wouldn't think you could misunderstand them to any bad degree.

As for the question, I suppose the main notion is to be openminded.

[dofaye]

True, my mother is very different from my peers.

Some people would find that easier said than done, I think.

[irisfragrance]

It's a different relationship, so I'm sure due to the different bond you'd have a better understanding.

I suppose so, but it is worthwhile to try and overcome any discomfort you feel if you gain a better insight into the other person I think.

[dofaye]

Of course. Mother and I are close than I am to any of my female friends.

It sounds like you're very well-versed in the topic.

[girlinthepast]

If you make an effort, I'm sure you'll do, Mister Jules!

[dofaye]

Ah, but what kind of effort?

[girlinthepast]

To understand people!

[donttelldaddy]

Self-pity is hideous, Jules.

[dofaye]

I don't pity anybody.

[donttelldaddy]

You're not cut out for relationships? Sounds like self-pity to me.

[dofaye]

It's a simple fact, and I'm not going to deny it. I'm perfectly happy without a lover.