No one deserves sadness... sending love and hugs and some insight

[dolnmoon]

All of my dear friends, I know that a lot of you are stunned and rightfully upset/hurt about dreamweaver37's betrayal of your trust and I hug all of you tightly.

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[badbastion]

*hugs*

I wish I'd remembered that you didn't trust him before I got more involved with him. I mean, we never got close, but I'd totally forgotten your dislike of him, and we were starting to kind of become friends. I'm glad the shit hit the fan now instead of later, when I might have been closer to him, but I'm still upset about all the people he's hurt with his bullshit.

[dolnmoon]

I am sorry that you started to be friends with him, I am sorry that he was a fucking - asshole - jerk who got his rocks off on being center stage and using disadvantaged children as his lure for the kind-heart.

I am so glad that it happened now before you got too close to him.

Yeah, I did try and warn people about him and his scam but well people need to make their own choices, that is how we learn. Also I could have been a mean fruitcake out to hurt his rep... who knew at that point. lol

[milly_gal]

*snuggles* I'm so sorry he tried t ruin your rep and treated you badly *loves*

[dolnmoon]

I have a thick skin when it comes to jerks on the internet. lol

I'm sorry that he managed to worm his way into people's lives so tightly and even use their own grief as part of his tangled web.

Shakespeare had it right. Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.

Hugs to you darlin and if you need a shoulder, mine comes with kleenex tissues and a good ear. Hugs

[milly_gal]

Thanks so much for the offer sweetpea, I'll bare it in mind *hugs*

[jj1564]

I knew he had bad-mouthed someone for doubting him in the past, I didn't realise it was you and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I wish I had taken heed of the warnings and not got so emotionally involved in his fairy-tale life. But on the plus side, I think this will make us all a little wiser and also a lot more appreciative of our real friends. And I'm very pleased to count you as one of them now my dear *hugs*

[dolnmoon]

It's okay sweetie, we didn't know each other then and I hold no ill will for anyone who agreed with him as he was their friend and standing up for a friend is what we do.

He didn't want me saying anything on his journal and getting people thinking about what was being said and questioning him so he had to retaliate by making me seem mean and hurtful, make you all rally against the hate monger. lol

I can understand how people would get involved in his fantasy. It doesn't make you any less for doing so, he spun a web that would tug the hearts of caring people. Besides this isn't real life, we don't actually know each other personally even if we talk every day and share and send gifts, we just take for granted that we are who we claim to be and get invested in each other. Most are true less are fake so we have to just keep believing in the good in everyone until we find out otherwise.

Hugs you tight and am so glad we are friends darlin. you are awesome.

[jj1564]

Aw, thanks! He certainly fooled a lot of us, I did wonder at the speed at which they were allocated adoptive kids as usually there's some lengthy process involved, but thought they were probably fostering them with a view to adopt. I won't be so gullible in future but I will still help and support my LJ friends.

*hugs you right back*

[dolnmoon]

Yeah that was one of the things that tipped me off, the fact that the caseworkers were call him and just offering him children with special needs. There is quite a foster process for special needs kids in the US, to adopt the process can take a year to adopt a healthy child let alone one with special needs. There are also more stipulations and hoops to jump through if you already have one child and want to adopt another. The existing child must go through counseling to make sure they are well adjusted, haven't been abused and able to accept another adopted child without too much animosity.

He was just constantly adding these babies like one every few months, saying they were offered to them and even if he was fostering them, that would be ridiculous to put that much on one person, he could never have handled them all by himself. I think last count before the "death" was what, four kids.

Hugs you.