dating again - well trying to

[donastraya]

So I've signed up with Match.com and have been looking through the 'matches' they have for me. Honestly, I've found 95% of them boring and I'm probably wasting my money

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[evilnicola]

okcupid. It is free, has way better match algorithms, and attracts a geekier, hipper crowd.

[donastraya]

my neice also mentiond okcupid, it really seems to be more for the um, younger set.

[evilnicola]

You'd be surprised. Judging by the activity in the forums, there is a pretty huge age range of active members. And hey, it is free.

[mare_in_flames]

Sadly, that's not an unusual experience. Any time I have signed up for those sites, it's painfully obvious that these guys have not even so much as glanced at my profile - except, probably, for the picture. Examples: they're allergic to or hate cats, dead set on having children, other things that are specifically countermanded in my profile. They're chaff, and it takes a lot of winnowing to get to the grain... if there is any.

Hey, at least it's not eHarmony - those guys are practically all married or recently separated, despite the bullshit they spew in their ads. And that site is over 70% women, too, so don't even think about giving them money.

[donastraya]

yeah, I had made the mistake of eharmony a number of years back.

[rlg]

have you looked at soulgeek.com?

oh my, they really are

[donastraya]

I had never heard of that soulgeek and just checked it out. Yeah, the name says it all. I'm gonna take a look around the site.

[skyefyr]

To be honest, that really didn't bother me much. Figure that they probably never hear back from most of the people they write to, they probably don't want to put a lot of effot into a first email. They pick certain criteria and contact everyone with it. (Unfortunately, some men's only criteria is you're female and breathing.)

I used to send back a polite email if anything in their profile caught my attention and waited to see how "personal" the second email was. If it was generic, they didn't hear back again. In most cases though the second email was much more personal and while I only stuck with one, I did make a few good friends that just didn't "click" on that level.

[donastraya]

Thank you for saying that. I was really begining to wonder. I've written back to a few, but I've yet to hear back from them.

[kender_ptc]

I've been trying gk2gk.com (geek to geek). Better than the generic sites. Most guys actually do read your profile and few have a standard introduction letter. Of course they are geeks and their wording and communication is ackward. You and I know as women that you need to always ask a question to continue the conversation, but these guys respond but have little followup.

I've met one and he was okay. The biggest hangup, as with all sites, is the average IQ is still the average IQ. Now gk2gk does strip off the below IQ, but I would like a guy with a steady job. Also the Waco area doesn't have much of anything to choose from. You are likely to see more in the heavily populated area of the East Coast.