A Quick (And Probably Angsty) Retrospective

[doodlesinsand]

So you remember things got bad with Roommate, right? I mean, also for Sea, but a lot of the kind of stuff she was putting Sea through she was also putting me through, except I wasn't her girlfriend so in a lot of ways I have less of a right to my hurt than Sea does, and definitely less of a right to air the dirty laundry in this way. But on the

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[doodlesinsand]

Thank you <333 I'm glad that this felt validating; I was worried a little that it might...well, that it might be hard for you to read or that it might feel as though I were diminishing what you went through with how things got or something.
I just. I do wish I could tell her, somehow, that she's doing this to people. I still care about her, and I know she isn't aware that she's hurting people in this way, and I wish I could say something so she doesn't hurt anyone else.

But I think, maybe, for both of us, making that choice of "come to me on my terms, respect those terms, or not at all" was a solid one. I do feel guilty about not finding a better way, but I think both of us needed to assert our own rights and needs within that relationship. So. Some day, I will maybe say something to her, and when I do I'll let you know, but just saying "no" feels like a pretty powerful way of pushing back and refusing to accept blame for things that aren't our fault, honestly.

[geekslave]

*hugs* It sounds like you're better off without this person in your life.

Stacey

[doodlesinsand]

thank you! I think so, too, though that was a hard concept to come to terms with. Thank you for all of your support, you've been really awesome about everything <33

[geekslave]

<3333

Stacey

[doodlesinsand]

thank you <3 I feel like--she was also going through hard stuff, and this behavior really isn't characteristic of her? I'm not trying to excuse what went on, but I feel awful to think people might be judging her based on this. But I guess it isn't my right to worry on her behalf anymore, so.
aww, thanks. I am really not a brave person, but thank you for thinking so <3

[aevenien]

OMG MARIT *THE BIGGEST HUG EVER*

[doodlesinsand]

Thank you ::hugs back:: and thank you for the song! I know it really sucked for you with something somewhat similar a while back, but. At least we've got each other? I may be a very bad internet friend sometimes but. I know you're there for me and I hope you know I'm here for you. <333