No he is not. It just is not easy getting past feelings that have been established. Love is a choice, no if ands or buts about it. Jesus CHOSE to love us...I choose to love sherri...
only a foolish man allows his feelings to controle him...and only a fool thinks love is a "feeling".
"A wise person once told you you can't choose who you love." ask that person who there in love with "this" week...
I just have to disagree with who ever told you that.
Hoskins and I have sort of been in this debate before, but I think on different levels, both this "wise man" and Hoskins are right.
Yes, you choose to love someone in the sense that you choose to stay with them and stick through it, even when times are tough.
But what makes you WANT to stick with them? What attracts you to them in the first place?
A feeling.
That's how it starts. Whether it be by "first sight" or after getting to know the person, it starts as a feeling of attraction towards that person. That's not necessarily love, because love is something that's developed over time, but without that initial feeling of interest, of attraction, you see no reason to pursue a relationship.
But then, with that feeling, it's your choice whether or not to pursue a relationship. If you do decide to do that, and you decide to stick with it when times get tough, that's love as a choice.
I'm willing to believe that on some level love is a choice, but at the same time I disagree with the statement that love isn't a feeling or emotion.-M
and if you actually read my responses in that debate you would see thats what i said...feeling is a PART of love...in the greek I think it is called eros which is were we get the term erotic, that is physicall attraction, then you decide to get to know them and hopefully it turns into phillios which is friend love...thats levels of love...then you choose to go deeper. So to find a happy middle ground...you choose how deep to take it,there are levels and the first level is based off of a feeling...infatuation...chemistry the rest is a choice. I would like to point out that you proved my point...
"That's how it starts. Whether it be by "first sight" or after getting to know the person, it starts as a feeling of attraction towards that person. THAT'S NOT NECESSARILY LOVE, because love is something that's developed over time"
so...to speed things up and skip right to were this will end up...we are in agreeance...but we rather argue because we like our wording better.
I want to agree with this. If you fell in love with this person randomly without even noticing it just happened you didnt pick it. And you may try to make yourself love someone else but you cant because now your heart is with that one person forever. And deep down inside thats where you'll always want to be too. I miss you Heather I hope everything is going great
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only a foolish man allows his feelings to controle him...and only a fool thinks love is a "feeling".
"A wise person once told you you can't choose who you love." ask that person who there in love with "this" week...
I just have to disagree with who ever told you that.
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Yes, you choose to love someone in the sense that you choose to stay with them and stick through it, even when times are tough.
But what makes you WANT to stick with them? What attracts you to them in the first place?
A feeling.
That's how it starts. Whether it be by "first sight" or after getting to know the person, it starts as a feeling of attraction towards that person. That's not necessarily love, because love is something that's developed over time, but without that initial feeling of interest, of attraction, you see no reason to pursue a relationship.
But then, with that feeling, it's your choice whether or not to pursue a relationship. If you do decide to do that, and you decide to stick with it when times get tough, that's love as a choice.
I'm willing to believe that on some level love is a choice, but at the same time I disagree with the statement that love isn't a feeling or emotion.-M
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I would like to point out that you proved my point...
"That's how it starts. Whether it be by "first sight" or after getting to know the person, it starts as a feeling of attraction towards that person. THAT'S NOT NECESSARILY LOVE, because love is something that's developed over time"
so...to speed things up and skip right to were this will end up...we are in agreeance...but we rather argue because we like our wording better.
-Hoskins
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And regardless of what you wanted....it's very easy to be drawn back....
*sigh*
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