After announcing to several friends that I feel like I am "ready to start dating again" and realizing that this means I will probably have to explore the world of online dating, two things happened
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I've tried the same strategy before, except that that was back when I was 18. I'm 32 now. Proof that it if you wait long enough, eventually nothing will happen. =D
As if dates themselves aren't a lot of work? You have to dig up some decent clothes. Then, you have to be all winning and witty to explain yourself to total strangers, and you can't edit yourself on the fly.
I will say that dates and job interviews have quite a lot in common and treating them similarly has helped me be more comfortable in either situation, though with varying degrees of success-my workaholism tends to play better in the latter situation than the former.
I think that if you go into online dating and keep your expectations low, it's at least a better to expend your social circle through which you [i]might[/i] meet somebody who interests you.
I have a buddy, and have heard of stories of others, who maintain spreadsheets and/or extensive notes so that they can remember details about who they went out with and be able to keep the information straight...lol.
At that point, it IS alot of work. And I'm not so sure there's any chemistry or future to be found when romance becomes converted into a methodical equation to be worked out, much akin to searching for a car or like you said, a job.
Anyhow, the solution is here:
buddystumbler.com
(haha...sorry about the shameless plug). But please do give it a try. ;)
Anyhow...I think it comes down to just putting yourself out there and doing the things you are passionate about. If you're working all the time and simply hanging around whoever's at the office, then effectively, you don't exist (this is the most common complaint I hear across the board).
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I guess it makes sense - I'm hoping to meet people through friends but that well's quite dry. perhaps there is no other way.
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I will say that dates and job interviews have quite a lot in common and treating them similarly has helped me be more comfortable in either situation, though with varying degrees of success-my workaholism tends to play better in the latter situation than the former.
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I have a buddy, and have heard of stories of others, who maintain spreadsheets and/or extensive notes so that they can remember details about who they went out with and be able to keep the information straight...lol.
At that point, it IS alot of work. And I'm not so sure there's any chemistry or future to be found when romance becomes converted into a methodical equation to be worked out, much akin to searching for a car or like you said, a job.
Anyhow, the solution is here:
buddystumbler.com
(haha...sorry about the shameless plug). But please do give it a try. ;)
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