If you read the article - the man is living with another woman while his wife (who has Alzheimers')is still alive. I'm not certain what the OP is snarking but the article relates.
About a man who begins to date a widow because his current wife doesn't know who he is.
I think the snark is based on the recent attempt someone made on LJ to suggest poly would fix all of Bella's problems in Twilight, and how that is totes cool.
I find this a lot more sad than snark-worthy. It's a terrible fact that many long-term spouses are trapped between loyalty to a mentally not-there spouse and their own desire for love and companionship.
In an interesting reversal, there are several cases of people with AD "finding love" in assisted care facilities even when their actual spouses are still alive.
This might have been funny if you had snarked people squeeing "OO! IT'S POLY" about this article detailing a situation that's heartbreakingly difficult for the three people involved.
Snarking the article itself? Not funny.
I know three people in real life who are in this very situation--a couple had chosen for 50 years to have a monogamous marriage, until one of them developed Alzheimer's; when the spouse who did not have Alzheimer's began a relationship with a recently widowed (after a 50-year monogamous marriage) friend, both parties to the new relationship were very conflicted and eager for reassurance from family, friends, and care providers to the person living with Alzheimer's that the new relationship was appropriate.
It's not easy for someone who has been part of a happy monogamous partnership for decades to learn how to do a new relationship style in the midst of watching their beloved partner experience dramatic cognitive and physical crises.
This was a category snark, not an incident snark, and certainly not a snark about the people in the article. I have no idea whether anyone has squeed about these individuals specifically, but there are plenty of examples of projection in the poly community.
This was a category snark, not an incident snark, and certainly not a snark about the people in the article. I have no idea whether anyone has squeed about these individuals specifically, but there are plenty of examples of projection in the poly community.
Your writeup didn't make that at all clear to me (or to most of the other commenters), though. Even "I bet there are people reading this and saying 'OO SQUEE POLY'" might have made your point more effectively?
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I think the snark is based on the recent attempt someone made on LJ to suggest poly would fix all of Bella's problems in Twilight, and how that is totes cool.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZwM3GvaTRM
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In an interesting reversal, there are several cases of people with AD "finding love" in assisted care facilities even when their actual spouses are still alive.
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Snarking the article itself? Not funny.
I know three people in real life who are in this very situation--a couple had chosen for 50 years to have a monogamous marriage, until one of them developed Alzheimer's; when the spouse who did not have Alzheimer's began a relationship with a recently widowed (after a 50-year monogamous marriage) friend, both parties to the new relationship were very conflicted and eager for reassurance from family, friends, and care providers to the person living with Alzheimer's that the new relationship was appropriate.
It's not easy for someone who has been part of a happy monogamous partnership for decades to learn how to do a new relationship style in the midst of watching their beloved partner experience dramatic cognitive and physical crises.
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In particular this one brought to mind another Alzheimer's related story.
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Your writeup didn't make that at all clear to me (or to most of the other commenters), though. Even "I bet there are people reading this and saying 'OO SQUEE POLY'" might have made your point more effectively?
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