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draegonhawke

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Dec 29, 2010 22:29

I'm asexual, though panphysical, and largely aromantic. I mistrust external significations made on relationships. I'm polyamorous, though I love slowly; I reserve judgment, I reserve trust, I'm not great at communicating my emotions to anyone, and I tend to dissect them interminably before going out and saying I have them. I dislike courting, I ( Read more... )

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eiviiaru December 30 2010, 05:29:27 UTC

What questions are there to ask? As long as you and L are happy, it doesn't matter what any of us on the outside think.

Congratulations, and best wishes for the future!

neile December 30 2010, 06:22:37 UTC

What eiviiaru said. Wishing you both individually and your "us" a strong and happy future. May you thrive together.

squeemu December 30 2010, 09:19:10 UTC

I already said this, but want to say it again: you guys are awesome and I love you both and I am so, so, so happy for you. <3 <3 <3

Also, I was sort of curious if you were getting a ring, so. Question: answered!

otherpervert December 30 2010, 13:53:45 UTC

That's awesome news! Congratulations to you both :)

yetregressing December 30 2010, 19:06:21 UTC

First things first: I've already said this in a thousand places, each of those places probably a thousand times myself, but I love both of you very much, and I'm kind of weirdly proud of you both for taking this step; I think Aubrey once asked in chat if I was someone's tiny mother, and I kind of feel like that, even though I'm actually the tiniest of them all, or something. But I am really proud of you, and I love you and if I have to punch a lot of people to get there when you have a thing that makes this all official, just gimme five minutes to put on my boxing gloves and I'll be there in a heartbeat ( ... )

draegonhawke January 1 2011, 18:02:01 UTC

I have no problem with it!

I think one way of explaining being aromantic is to point out that romance is heavily, heavily constructed by society. It's ritualized, and it's often a way of either wooing someone into a state of love with you, or of proving that they are in a state of love with you. If you're the kind of person who prefers relationships to come to be organically (without an endpoint in mind) or who doesn't feel like proof of the quality of your relationship comes from sweet nothings, flattery, candlelight dinners and implicit tests and expectations... well.

Romance always seems, in all of my observations of it, to come with conditions that have to be fulfilled. You have to offer flowers on your anniversary or chocolates on Valentine's Day, and if you don't, that's suspect. Romance has rules.