I think the more important question is, why bother with this conversation? I imagine you two are done being friends (I know I was through the moment I found out about my similar situations) and it would be tremendously healthier to just move on. Finding out why is always a big influence on me, but then I realize that much of the time, there just ISN'T AN ANSWER THAT MAKES ANY SENSE.
I am sorry you're going through this, and totally sympathize. Seriously though, she's pulling at strings because of her own conscience and trying to excuse the inexcusable. Let it go, and heal yourself in any and all ways you know how.
I am not trying to figure out why, and I haven't talked to her at all. I just keep going over things in my head. I can't seem to make it stop. There are other people that I care about involved in this and I have to figure things out eventually. I know this seems to be all that I am taking about but this is what is in my heart right now, and I am just trying to work through it.
I don't think anyone is surprised by your expressing yourself and thinking this through. Who wouldn't?
I decided about two years after my ex and I broke up that I was done holding everything inside, and would express it freely. I decided that if i felt something, it was valid, regardless of how logical it was or was not; because I was feeling it, it had to be expressed, gotten out of my system, and worked out to some extent so that it didn't stagnate and cause any/ more damage.
In other words, work through it all you want, and let it rip! I know I won't give you any crap for it...I think you have every right to do whatever you need to in order to sort it all out and move toward healing yourself.
I kind of misunderstood the post btw, so I apologize if my reply seemed wrong at all...just a communication barrier!
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I am sorry you're going through this, and totally sympathize. Seriously though, she's pulling at strings because of her own conscience and trying to excuse the inexcusable. Let it go, and heal yourself in any and all ways you know how.
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I decided about two years after my ex and I broke up that I was done holding everything inside, and would express it freely. I decided that if i felt something, it was valid, regardless of how logical it was or was not; because I was feeling it, it had to be expressed, gotten out of my system, and worked out to some extent so that it didn't stagnate and cause any/ more damage.
In other words, work through it all you want, and let it rip! I know I won't give you any crap for it...I think you have every right to do whatever you need to in order to sort it all out and move toward healing yourself.
I kind of misunderstood the post btw, so I apologize if my reply seemed wrong at all...just a communication barrier!
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