Codependency

[dragonsoracle]

I recently got into an active debate with one of my recent LJ Friends about the definition and application of the term Codependency, and how it applies to interpersonal relationships.

This discussion largely fell to the back burner and almost was left on the wayside until I was reading a posting going into some depth on the Heart Chakra (Sanskrit

Comments

[vicki_sine]

I think you have pretty much described the June and Mr. Cleaver relationship ideal of the 50's

[the_mind_bender]

The term "Codependency" refers to a specific type of stable but dysfunctional relationship, but what you are talking about in depending on the other person when you need it is called "interdependency". The difference comes down to manipulation, although it is usually something that neither partner intentionally decides to do (it isn't like they sit down one day and decide to do it, it just happens). In a codependent relationship both parties use their power (either being on top or at the bottom) to manipulate the other person and rob the other person of the ability to continue independently.

Love, care, respect, and the strength built into a long term relationship should be what makes you need to be there for the other person; not manipulation, fear of hurt, fear of hurting, blind duty, or the like.

[vicki_sine]

Actually, not necessarily

anon

[vicki_sine]

Sorry thought I was logged in.