A wise woman once told me to never date poets in the slam community because then you must live in community with the asshole when things go awry
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but it's hard for me because I don't know what happened. You say here that there were lies, etc., but not what they were. I can understand you not wanting to "talk trash," but be honest with us.
So much shit started in my community because people didn't want to call people on their shit.
I'm seriously wondering - should I be friends with this person, but he has not done anything to me personally...but if he did something to you that I can't forgive, then that's something too.
Re: sisterkat0ninetalesOctober 26 2011, 04:20:25 UTC
Strange how I just now realized who you are talking about. That I've read things by him and not realized it was you (nothing mean-spirited, I assure you).
And I know just exactly what you mean. I've been through a very similar situation. I can't say I ever really saw it get to a good place, but it did become tolerable.
What is most important, I think, is that you allow yourself to feel betrayed and angry about it. This person wronged you. Even if no one else gets it like you do, your feelings about it are valid.
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but it's hard for me because I don't know what happened. You say here that there were lies, etc., but not what they were. I can understand you not wanting to "talk trash," but be honest with us.
So much shit started in my community because people didn't want to call people on their shit.
I'm seriously wondering - should I be friends with this person, but he has not done anything to me personally...but if he did something to you that I can't forgive, then that's something too.
I love you!
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And I know just exactly what you mean. I've been through a very similar situation. I can't say I ever really saw it get to a good place, but it did become tolerable.
What is most important, I think, is that you allow yourself to feel betrayed and angry about it. This person wronged you. Even if no one else gets it like you do, your feelings about it are valid.
Don't get over it. Until you do.
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