I haven't signed into LJ in forever so I'm not up to date on Fred.
I'll be honest though...reading this gave me flashbacks to my year in DC with BadBill.
I may be reading this entry wrongly though so I'll just say, you're an intelligent woman, smart enough to know the difference between being manipulated by a person vs. an interaction with a person who is making a true effort at not hurting you.
Thanks, dearest Cass. :) It's not in any way a romantic thing, which is my I'm a little more ragey than normal. If he were clever enough for manipulation and actually had the ability to get me to do things without me realizing it, I'd've washed my hands of him long ago, but he's just a friend I was helping work through some stuff.
He gets annoyed with me that I don't share things with him, but when I do he has no way to deal with it and just shuts down, so this time I didn't sugar coat stuff and actually made him confront what was happening and he's totally clueless. You know how some people will listen to you and rather than accepting exactly what you said as what you mean, they react to what they think you really meant? That's the problem we're having here. He's working through his selfish defense mechanisms, but short of smacking him upside the head, I don't have a way to divorce my reactions from the current situation to help him understand from a neutral point of view. So he's pretty much got to learn on his feet for this one.
I hate that every time I read an emotional entry of yours that I feel like there are huge gaps leading up to the story that I don't know about, because I don't have the proximity. I want to say something helpful or productive, but it seems most of the time I end up sticking my foot in my mouth.
So I will just say that you ARE too awesome to get crapped on by anything that makes you feel less than awesome, and deal with it in the way that best keeps your awesomeness shining. <3
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I haven't signed into LJ in forever so I'm not up to date on Fred.
I'll be honest though...reading this gave me flashbacks to my year in DC with BadBill.
I may be reading this entry wrongly though so I'll just say, you're an intelligent woman, smart enough to know the difference between being manipulated by a person vs. an interaction with a person who is making a true effort at not hurting you.
Hugs and love from L.A.
:)
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He gets annoyed with me that I don't share things with him, but when I do he has no way to deal with it and just shuts down, so this time I didn't sugar coat stuff and actually made him confront what was happening and he's totally clueless. You know how some people will listen to you and rather than accepting exactly what you said as what you mean, they react to what they think you really meant? That's the problem we're having here. He's working through his selfish defense mechanisms, but short of smacking him upside the head, I don't have a way to divorce my reactions from the current situation to help him understand from a neutral point of view. So he's pretty much got to learn on his feet for this one.
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So I will just say that you ARE too awesome to get crapped on by anything that makes you feel less than awesome, and deal with it in the way that best keeps your awesomeness shining. <3
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