Hook-ups: Burning Desire or Playing with Matches?

[dramajock]

(Yes, this was for a class

Comments

how true

[katididwhatnow]

That is extremely insightful - and what a cool topic for a class might I add. Out of curiousity - do you agree with everything or is this just passing thoughts, etc?

Re: how true

[dramajock]

for the most part, yeah. More and more I'm thinking hook-ups might be part of the developmental process, and some people are done with it and others simply skipped over it, but I think a lot of our culture embraces the idea that we're young and in college and we should be meeting new people, even when it's at the expense of someone you really care about.

[hepcatcarolyn]

First of all, I commend you on writing a paper on such a elusive subject that is seen in so many ways by so many people. I think it would have been interesting to look at the motivations behind hookups more in depth, such as the psychological implications rather than just the "cause and effect" reasons, such as breaking up with a boyfriend, instant gratification, etc

sage advice from the yellow tranquilizer dart

[dramajock]

I'm beginning to realize in my attempts to not isolate groups or individuals I came across too vague. I actually wrote a response essay to this from the other side, but I don't like it as much, and since it tries to justify hook-ups, I had a difficult time wanting it to look good. Trying to go for the illusion of an aloof observer or someone in the culture that's developed fluke insight, I compromised my position to appeal to the audience, that I'm one of them (which I'm not, since I’ve never had a hook-up and don’t really have any desire to for moral reasons

snaps from the bitter yellow dart

[hepcatcarolyn]

Thanks for the time-consuming and insightful response, I understand your view and the aims of the essay much better now. I agree that hook-ups could very well be a phase in a person's relationship development -I think that alot of people in this stage of their lives are very much lacking in personal restraint.

And what a great little nugget of advice, "No one should ever lure someone into a relationship with their sexual goodies". I see fortune cookie material here.

I'd be happy to proof-read any of your essays, I love to see whats going on outside of my little academic bubble. You also manage to come up with some pretty interesting topics - Emo is hardly an easy undertaking.