The crutch that walked away...

[draveneyes]

Letting go is a hard thing. I'm not talking about places or situations. I'm talking about people. Before coming to school, I never gave up on anybody. I kept in touch with all the people I said would keep in touch with. These would usually be people with problems. Problems I couldn't fix, but would try to fix. My mind set was, and to an

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walked away...

[urangelofmusic]

Michael~You are a good soul. Amazingly, your story mirrors my own. I have tried, and to no avail, to aid those in need, only to find, they are good as long as they have me. I haven’t yet mastered the art of making a lasting impression. Weakness wins out every time…or does it? I guess the only thing we can do is to set a good example. It is being “Christ” to those we meet. “Preach the gospel at all times and when necessary, use words.”

I have come to the realization, that as much as I care, and as much as I want to see someone change, only he/she can make that decision. I can set an example, point them in the right direction, surround them in prayer, always invoking his/her guardian angel, and let go. This is a heavy cross Mike~Give her to Jesus, & confident you’ve done your best, ~entrust her to His Sacred Heart. As always, you are in my prayers.

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[urangelofmusic]

I'm certain, you've made a LASTING impression. :-)

[myrddins]

Yeah, walking away sucks. Really underscores the primacy of the individual will. I've taken to "tough love" with people before I walk away -- literally saying, "Look. You keep fucking this up, and you know I'm here for you. But you're dragging me down, and pretty soon I'm going to have to walk away. I'm here to help you up, not carry you. You can either choose this or not, but stop floundering. Make a decision." Many people won't change as long as they have someone to lean on. That's the someone you need to be careful about being, because it really just prolongs their dysfunction.

God puts you in lives for as long as He intends you to be there. If you choose to walk away, then clearly He accomodated that in His plan for that person's life (given that He knew you'd do it, so He planned around it.) So dinne worry about it. She'll be just as fine as she's supposed to be.

:-*

[prncssleiakitty]

I know it probably seems pointless to tell you not to worry, but Don't. You're a good friend, and you know that sometimes it is necessary to let people learn whatever lesson on their own, however painful to them or those surrounding them. If nothing else, be assured that there are people surrounding her ready and willing to take her hand if she collapses. And as for you, you've got more places to go, and more people to extend your hand to.
For my part, I apologize for times I did hang on longer than necessary. Thank you for helping me up though...