thoughts on love

[dreamgrl7943]

I'm listening to Sufjan Stevens, he's such a sucker for love, which i don't approve of, I mean love is wonderful and all, but it is so easily abused by selfish modivations. People uphold it by flowery admiration, dreams and fantasy, or wierd logic they don't really understand; and as soon as they lose their fantasy or lose trust in their own logic

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[planeskeep]

Where as i agree with you in alot of respects, i think that people generally write off love and everything that goes with it, like chaulking it up as a bad experience because of some undesired expereince, and then decide its not worth it to be like that.

Personally, i think that kind of idealioligy is like saying "yeah, i believe in god, and that he is everything, but i make my own coices in life, because i'm in control, not god.

What kind of bozo came up with that? Yeesh, yeah god is everything, but hes not me, not any of my ideas, nor is he anything i do, i mean, i'm the only one that any say in my life.

:: sighs :: oh well.

[frugal_fox]

"I'm listening to Sufjan Stevens, he's such a sucker for love, which i don't approve of

[planeskeep]

Personally, i think all love is the same, and its not love that makes a girlfriend, a significant other, or a borther or a sister, or a parent or a child, its more the relationship (which is more defined and definitely more arbitrary

cole -

[dreamgrl7943]

of course relationships involve love! I see love as acceptance, not only total exceptence. When you form a relationship with someone it is based on exceptence (love) or rejection (hate), usually a mixture of the two. The stronger the the energetic connect the stronger the love or hate. In the beginning states of a relationship, like when you first meet someone, there isn't much love or hate because you haven't formed a strong connection yet

[opal_antlers]

"love

[planeskeep]

Dude, i SO think the media defines the dictionary defonitions. If you would like me to be more clear, i think Love maybe isn't the right word. But it is. Because its what were using.

Secondly, it kind of sounds like your looking outside of yourself for personal satisfaction, and by doing that you are setting yourself to be reliant on a temporal situation for your happiness.

Ruby is a person, she changes, she may stop praising you. She may even stop appreciating you. I'm not suggesting this, I am merely suggesting, for me, if i was in the situation, i would find happiness within myself, and then seek to share that happiness, and in doing so not setting myself up for disappointment, or regret.

Happiness from anything outside of myself is merely temporary, and can never make me happy in the long run.

However, if i am happy, myself, then i can enjoy what other people have to offer (their praises, their attention, etc.) without being attached to it, and without being bitter or regretful later if things change, as they invariably

[bassdrumdreams]

Well i've become a somewhat believer in the temporary merriment of making others happy.
I mean, true, playing risk doesn't deal with our inner conflicts, but i think
it's good for the ego. Just to have fun and not get stressed up in things.

[planeskeep]

I'm totally in agreement, if its done from the awaeness that this is the case, and that there are issues below it that need to be dealt with, and they will be dealt with in due time.

Howere, just escaping all the time is avoiding the problems at hand and causing myself to prolong the misery they cause me, and if i dealt with them more often, and give them due attention, instead of escaping all the time, i fell i would be a much better person for it.

Its not about denying myself anything, its about being open an honest to myself and saying "yep, i'm going to escape here for the moment, and enjoy this, but i know that there are other things going on, and i have to eventually deal with them, but sometimes i need a break, and right now, i'm taking one."