Comments | dreamscaperuins: "The minute before you thought about busting us? That was the minute you had chicken in your hands."

dreamscaperuins

"The minute before you thought about busting us? That was the minute you had chicken in your hands."

Jul 09, 2010 12:49

Its been awhile since I've updated LJ. Almost a month, actually - which is kind of scary. My life has been on hold for an entire month, and still going that way.

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kungfucarrie July 9 2010, 18:35:29 UTC

Carlos has family in TN, in a small town, where you also have to drive like 20 minutes to WalMart- and that's the 'big thing to do'. Or the weekend Flea Market.

dreamscaperuins July 9 2010, 23:23:10 UTC

I'd say something like "OH COOL MAYBE ITS THE SAME TOWN."

But it seems like everywhere in TN is a small town area full of fruit stands and flea markets.

kungfucarrie July 10 2010, 13:29:41 UTC

LOL.

They're near Morristown, which is closer to Knoxville. I think.

dreamscaperuins July 11 2010, 03:19:46 UTC

Oooh. Thats West TN. Were in East TN, closer to NAshville and Clarksville. Looks like West TN isn't much different. I heard it was cooler, too.

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regalish July 9 2010, 22:51:45 UTC

dreamscaperuins July 9 2010, 23:28:45 UTC

Well, we have already discussed a lot of this stuff, but just know that I'm here if you need to talk. I've been through all sorts of family stuff with illnesses/etc., so. You know how to find me.

I know. And thank you for that, really. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

I do sleep... kind of. Probably nowhere near as much as I used to or should, but enough to keep me going I suppose. I'm fine doing this for right now. Its just, I don't think we can do this for another one or two months straight.

Seriously, no matter how dysfunctional the family is, someone's gonna have to step up and say, "Listen, we can't do this all on our own. We need help." Whether it's your grandma putting her foot down with the relatives or whatever. It's just gotta be done.

Yep. I agree, and I've told my own mother exactly that. But she is just as stubborn as my Grandma and refuses to ask for help.

"If they want to help, they'll help. I'm not going to beg for it. I don't want them to be here if they don't want to be."

regalish July 9 2010, 23:39:50 UTC

And thank you for that, really. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ Of course, honey. No thanks needed. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

"If they want to help, they'll help. I'm not going to beg for it. I don't want them to be here if they don't want to be." Well that's just... not quite good enough. If your mom and grandma won't ask for help, maybe it's up to you. And who cares if they don't WANT to be there? I'm sure, of all the things you could be doing and all the places you could be right now, TN is not high on your list -- you can make it work, because family love is unconditional, but it's not like you're having a friggin' party.

Somehow, get the family involved so you and your mom can have a break. It'll be good for both of you.

28andoccrazy July 10 2010, 16:06:47 UTC

It's so good to hear from you, hon. I know you're going through an incredibly hard time right now.

I think it speaks very well of you and your mom that you are willing to step up and own this responsibility. I've never actually gone through this particular trial myself, but I have close relatives that have, and let me just say....you will be rewarded for your kindness....

Hang in there, sweetie, and hopefully life can get back to normal for you soon. I will say a prayer for you and your family....

*hugs* :)

dreamscaperuins July 11 2010, 03:21:42 UTC

Hey darling! Its good to hear from you too! ♥ ♥

Yeah, I guess the good old "What goes around comes around" saying fits in here. Its good to hear when my Grandma almost starts breaking down in happy tears and says "I dont know what i would do without you two here." So, were doing something right I guess..

Thanks, though, for thinking of me!!!! *hugehugs*