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drewsome83

Life Update #5 - Family fun

Jul 03, 2015 10:05

Life has been interesting this week, all mainly centered around my mums birthday for reason or another which I will get into. First off, update from last week, the Car is still up in the air. It was supposed to be here yesterday but I've now got to wait until Tuesday but it's not the end of the world. Only a few more days but for some reason it ( Read more... )

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sammason July 3 2015, 09:56:40 UTC

I love that video and what it's about! Not impressed by attitudes in some of your family. You, your boyfriend and your brother are dealing with this shite so graciously.

drewsome83 July 3 2015, 14:47:40 UTC

I just don’t want to rock the boat and try to keep things civil but its getting harder and harder to do as time goes on.

sammason July 4 2015, 04:50:16 UTC

Reading how you describe your mum, it's clear that you love and appreciate her. I suppose nobody's perfect and, as you say, people's education in the past was however it was. But outright homophobia? Yuck! I hope you have good strategies to improve and manage this situation.

drewsome83 July 6 2015, 08:17:54 UTC

Hopefully I do, they have worked so far anyway. I'm sure it will turn out OK in the end :)

regisjr July 3 2015, 11:20:23 UTC

I am sorry all didn't go well at the BBQ. That's a shame you had to eel like an outcast.

The people at the BBQ don't even know I am gay. It wouldn't even be going if they knew. It's someone from church that invited me to their home.

drewsome83 July 3 2015, 14:48:23 UTC

It's OK I'll get over it. Life goes on.

arwen_of_lorien July 3 2015, 12:23:50 UTC

I'm sorry your mom's new partner isn't a nicer person. I'm sure she'd be more supportive about you and your boyfriend if she was dating someone who wasn't such an asshole. Things we do for love... :/

drewsome83 July 3 2015, 14:49:58 UTC

It's OK, I'm pretty much used to it. It's her life and if she's happy then who am I to complain.

magic_treehouse July 3 2015, 12:47:59 UTC

Ugh, I'm sorry you have to put up with this archaic behaviour. It's harder with family because you can't escape them so easily! I'm very lucky in that respect although some family members are better than others. At least you can rest, safe in the knowledge that it's not you that has a problem, it's other people and at least your boyfriend understands the situation.

Parents can be funny though. When I came out to my Mum she was fine with it but thought I was going to quit Uni! I had to explain that I hadn't turned into a completely different person despite having a boyfriend. I also appreciate that from that point on your parents kind of have to come out to people as well. I think my Dad relished telling other people about his gay son just to see their reactions but it took a little while for James' parents to be so comfortable I think. I only sympathise so much though. It's the person coming out that has it hardest!

drewsome83 July 3 2015, 14:58:49 UTC

What is it they say, cant choose your family. Yeah he understands but I know it gets him down that my family isn’t as excepting as his. Bless your mum, its funny the way some people think isn’t it. I can see it from both sides I suppose but your right its the person coming out that has it the hardest.

magic_treehouse July 3 2015, 15:01:56 UTC

Well, in a way you can choose your family - they're called friends! I have no idea why my Mum thought that. I guess you never know how people are going to react. I always think it's fairly obvious that I'm gay but over the years I've had people who were genuinely shocked to find it out. It's very odd.

drewsome83 July 3 2015, 15:15:22 UTC

Haha yeah you are right but you know what I ment. Yeah everyone always seems dead shocked when they find out I'm gay but then I probably put on a good act or something. Or at least I used to, I'm pretty open from the off nowadays :)

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rockingthemike July 3 2015, 13:05:38 UTC

i'd be having a serious sitdown with mum, and telling her she (and her partner) need to grow up and accept the status quo. this is the sort of thing where i understand why people just stop associating with their families.

drewsome83 July 3 2015, 15:00:45 UTC

Yeah I get what you are saying but I'm the kind of person that doesn’t like to rock the boat but you are right about things like this being the reason why people stop associating with their familiars because it would be a damn sight easier if I didn’t have to deal with it.