Comments | drmikes_slave: We are ENGAGED!!!!!

drmikes_slave

We are ENGAGED!!!!!

Dec 10, 2005 10:45

So Master has to be one of the most romantic guys I know. He has been up to something that I knew about for at least the last week, but unlike the rest of the times when he is up to something, this time I couldn't trick him into giving me enough details to figure it out. (Usually I can ask questions in mid conversation and get enough to figure ( Read more... )

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babalon_it December 10 2005, 16:25:52 UTC

Oh that is fantastic! I adore it!

Congratulations. This just makes me want to cry with joy. How absolutely delightful.

I highly recommend http://www.weddingchannel.com as a way of organizing everything. And get a couple of girlfriends to help with things. Delegate as much as you can. Get a general sense of what you want, then delegate that whole section to someone.

And REMEMBER that no matter what happens - the only absolutely necessary parrt is for the officiant to ask you if you both want to, you both say yes, and the witnesses and officiant sign the marriage license. So everything else is, basically, icing on the cake. When the day comes and you're walking to the front to meet your sweetie - you won't care about anything else.

drmikes_slave December 10 2005, 16:33:41 UTC

Thank you. We actually talked about that this morning. The important part is only that we are going to share the day with our family and friends and say the vows.

I did try to talk him out of the wedding though. It is all so much work and I am not a girly girl so the wedding part of it doesn't do much for me. It is the reception part that I like.
Thanks for the congrats.
Shay

babalon_it December 10 2005, 20:39:16 UTC

We did ours in a park, near a lake. County parks are great places to have weddings. We did the wedding itself (a wiccan ceremony presided over by a friend), then walked 50 feet to the picnic area (which had been decorated by friends) and had a barbecue (run by another friend). We had an Irish Rock band (more friends) and it was all very casual and fun. (although we all dressed up, which made it more fun.)

It was really easy to arrange and no hassles. The one thing I wishh is that I would have understood that the cake needed to "defrost" longer. It ended up being very yummy as it was (almost like an icecream cake) and considering it was midsummer (july 24) that worked well.

mronin December 10 2005, 18:06:52 UTC

Wow, congratulations to both of you. I wish you both the best of luck. BTW very clever way of asking Dr. Mike, my hats off to you.

So far as the planning goes. I can second the recommendation of using weddingchannel.com. However I've gone both the "plan down to the very last detail" route as well as the "drop everything and go to vegas" route and both have their plusses and minuses. Stress is an unfortunate part of the planing no matter which direction you go. It's more a matter of figuring out the best way to mitigate as much of it as you can.

drmikes_slave December 10 2005, 18:08:21 UTC

Thanks so much. :) Still can't stop smiling

mronin December 11 2005, 07:00:43 UTC

Your very welcome :-).

smokierings December 10 2005, 18:40:53 UTC

Congrats! Have fun this season.

drmikes_slave December 10 2005, 22:41:03 UTC

Thanks so much

wow! smart_ass_sub December 10 2005, 18:48:15 UTC

that's an awesome story, so sweet. Congrats!! : )

Re: wow! drmikes_slave December 11 2005, 14:19:03 UTC

Thank you. I hope all is getting better with your dad. You are both in our thoughts.
Hugs,
Shay

half_elf_lost December 10 2005, 19:01:42 UTC

Thanks for sharing a wonderful story and your good news!

Anyone have any advice on how to get it all done without all of the stress?

Yes. You need to remind yourself continuously that this work/planning is all being done to lead up to a wonderful, memorable day.

In honor of that, try and make all the steps/work/planning wonderful and memorable too and if they become too stressful or conflict-filled, set them aside and revisit them when you are ready to enjoy the planning.

drmikes_slave December 11 2005, 14:18:28 UTC

LOL... that is funny. Master gave me the same advice when I told him I didn't want it to be a stressful thing...

half_elf_lost December 11 2005, 18:43:46 UTC

He gave good advice! lol You simply don't allow it to be stressful. Bow out (temporarily) if it does, and don't allow anyone else to stress you out either. One of the ways to do this is not offer too much info to people who want to know all the details so that they can make you nutty.

I love saying things like, "Oh, I don't know, we're not detail people....I'm sure it will work out..." to those nosy questions.

drmikes_slave December 11 2005, 20:17:36 UTC

LOL... I can do that and have fun with it.... Thanks