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Oct 03, 2006 08:11

So, apparently I snapped at Weronika at work (I had no idea) twice yesterday. And things proceeded to get worse and worse. I ended up telling her that if I get this job in Ireland, I'm going. If she wants to follow, that's up to her. She told me last night that she now doesn't want to move anywhere, because she feels safe with her job. It was ( Read more... )

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khrysha October 3 2006, 08:52:54 UTC

This seems like a cyclical problem dude...

And don't just go disappearing. That'd be a really crap idea, and you'd probably die back in the states...

You still have the option of Ireland.

droog October 3 2006, 09:31:22 UTC

I truly haven't a clue what's going on between us. Except the reality that nothing is going on between us. I'm just trying not to do one of my famous disappearances...

khrysha October 3 2006, 13:35:44 UTC

Don't disappear. It's the easy option and you're too old for that.

droog October 3 2006, 13:45:56 UTC

of course I won't, I think I'm mostly venting right now. actually, we've been talking and trying to figure out what's wrong with us for a while...but I'm not going to do anything too stupid!!!!

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oh man redgilda October 3 2006, 10:07:12 UTC

yeah the fact that all this is reoccurring is not a good sign :/

is there anything I/we/anyone can do? I kinda doubt it as I think it's up to you two to work things out (or not) but if there's anything I could do - let me know..

Re: oh man droog October 3 2006, 10:09:31 UTC

It's kind of funny right now, we're sitting next to each other, and sending emails to each other bitching about each other!!!

Re: oh man redgilda October 3 2006, 11:10:52 UTC

heh yeah, I saw that you're sitting next to each other today, I was wondering how's it going between u in this situation :S do they sit you somewhere else every day or what? ;-)

mattyramone October 3 2006, 16:16:40 UTC

Hey, if you wanna move to DC, you'll have someone to go to shows and drink with and commisserate about our ex-wives.

adaon October 3 2006, 22:15:13 UTC

Well, I know that you didn't ask for advice, but I'm giving it anyway. I think if you are still able to find some good, some value in Weronika and your marriage, then you need to see a marriage counselor. I suspect that her behavior is 50% of the problem, because you're likely reacting to her as much as you are antagonizing her.

I've no clue if marriage counselors are common in Warsaw, or if you could find one who speaks English well. But it is an idea worth investigating. I went to a couples counselor once, and she really did teach us how to listen to each other's nonverbal cues and how to communicate without bursting into anger or descending into passive-aggressiveness.