I guess i just expected more

[drumlogic]

This has been probably the hardest month and a half of my life. around 6 weeks ago my wife left me. I tried to do counseling with her and everything that I knew how to do. She just had too much hurt and anger inside of her that I couldn't fix. I had tried to keep hope up because she literally went crazy, leaving me, her family, started living

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[jodea]

I'm sorry you are hurting and that you have lost someone you loved dearly. Clearly, it is not something you did.
I hope though, that in the future, you find someone who doesn't need fixing or changing, because people don't change generally... and life is so much calmer when we can find someone who is great as is... kinda like you. =P

[drumlogic]

thanks jodee I appreciate it.

[curiousmagpie]

I'm really sorry to hear this. I can't think of anything more painful for a person to go through. I'll keep you in my thoughts and my prayers.
Make sure to surround yourself with loved ones, it's better not to go through something like this alone.

[drumlogic]

thank you, I am trying to. I went and spent some time with my brother today. With my personality I want to just hide away in a cave somewhere, but I am trying not to do that.

[araneus]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope things get better for you soon.

[drumlogic]

thanks araneus, and I'm sorry I haven't got your package to you yet. It has been really hard lately and my mind hasn't been where it should be. I have all the stuff here with me where I'm saying, so it's just a matter of getting a box and shipping it all. I thought I had got a good box from the post office but it was too small. I will make sue and make it a great package to make up for it.

[araneus]

No hurry! Take your time. Hope your stuff arrives soon to help cheer you up a little! I know it won't really help, but sometimes all we can do in crappy situations is try to take our minds off of it for a while.

[drumlogic]

I am so sorry I thought I had sent you a message! I know I typed it, I must have just hit enter instead of pushing the post comment button and xed out of it!. Everything arrived and arrived safely! I love ALL of it!! you don't know how thrilled I was with everything you sent. Some of those things are part of the favorites in my collection!

[bittirsweet]

I'm sorry you had to go through all that.
It's hard not to want to try to fix people you care about, but the reality is that they have to be willing to do the work themselves and sometimes it really is better to let them go.

[drumlogic]

thank you

i'm sorry

[fuckgsus]

sorry you've gone through that, but from an outsider's perspective, THANK GOD you weren't the one to knock her up.
I went through getting hit in the head, back, kicked in the stomach and when I wouldn't fight with her get my hat knocked off and would be called a pussy.
That's no way for a wife to treat you. Even if you love her and want the best for her, you can't allow yourself to put yourself in a situation like that.
Good riddance I say- you can't save her or anyone else, only yourself. Go and be happy yourself and find people who appreciate you and your love.

Sorry, not sure if that's what you want to read, especially from someone whom you don't even know, but I've gone through a divorce and it's hard to 'let go'.... but when you're dragged down into the depths of destruction, i guess there comes a time when you have to sever yourself off from it.

Re: i'm sorry

[drumlogic]

the hard part is actually admitting that someone that you love and spent years of your life with is a "Toxic" person. she was this way when she was younger, but I thought at the point I had met her that she was grown and had put all that behind her. I guess if you hold things inside instead of taking care of them, then eventually they will surface again. Thanks for the comment and for looking out for me. I appreciate it