LJ Idol, Topic Twenty-One: "Fear Itself"

[dslartoo]

My friend Eddy is terrified of bridges

Comments

[alien_infinity]

Trouble is, intellect doesn't enter into it where fears are concerned. You don't get to choose your fears, and dealing with a source of fright can be a lifelong task for some people.

This is so very true.

I, too, fear that I'm not good enough. My fear stops me from trying sometimes. :/

[dslartoo]

I refuse to let fear overcome me....but it does get annoyingly personal sometimes. At which times I beat it into submission using the methods I mentioned. I'm sure you have your own methods as well; use 'em! Don't let it beat you either.

Thanks for dropping by!

cheers,
Phil

[basric]

A good attitude to have. Well done.

[dslartoo]

It had better be a good attitude, because it's the one I've got. :) Thanks!

cheers,
Phil

[pixiebelle]

You know, I overcame my fear of public speaking because I remembered how someone told me that more people feared public speaking than they did death. And I realized how stupid that was. Screwing up a word or freezing in front of people won't kill me. I now love speaking to large groups and it's something I'm told I'm good at. I'm also a freak of nature who gets off on doing things that I'm scared of. I become obsessed and the fear turns to fascination. I am afraid of heights; deathly afraid of heights. But I'm fascinated by tall roller coasters that scare the crap out of me. Same with snakes. I used to be afraid... But now I love them. I'm a freak, I know it.

The rest of this is something I can totally relate to too. I'm very hard on myself. I'm downright mean to myself and never forgive myself if I mess up. It's my strive for perfection. I'll never feel good enough and I push and push. It's allowed me to do some great things in my life, but I've never been able to appreciate them because I can always do better.

[dslartoo]

Perfectionism is a huge freakin' cross to bear, that's for damned sure. It handicaps me sometimes, but more often than not it just drives me even harder to succeed, so I don't mind it too much overall.

Good on you for grabbing hold of your fears and turning them into.....likes? That's.....interesting. :)

Thanks for coming by!

cheers,
Phil

[jem0000000]

*hugs*

[dslartoo]

Thanks! Hugs are always gratefully accepted.

cheers,
Phil

[dslartoo]

Obscure phobias are the worst, because people can't understand: "How can you possibly be afraid of that?" Like I said -- you don't get to choose your fears, dammit. I hope you are able to deal with yours without it becoming too much of a distraction.

Thanks for coming by!

cheers,
Phil