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dslartoo

LJ Idol, Week 32 (Home Game entry): "Modest Proposals"

Jul 02, 2012 10:51

I have never felt the urge to reproduce.

I see those eyebrows going up into the stratosphere. Of course I've felt the urge to have sex. I'm a guy; we think about sex an average of once every seven seconds, if the popularly stated statistic is to be believed. Sex is great and wonderful and awesome, and a fantastic way to grow closer, and I'm dating ( Read more... )

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dslartoo July 3 2012, 15:44:13 UTC

Every choice is indeed valid until you start complaining about it, I feel. If you have children, I feel you forfeit all right to complain about how they are noisy, take up your time and resources, always have to be the center of attention, and all of the other objections I voiced above. If you didn't want to deal with *everything* that childhood entails, the good and the bad, you shouldn't have had kids. :) Those are the only parents I really vilify -- the ones that complain about the choice they made. Otherwise -- yes, everyone's choice is valid, if you want to have kids or not have kids.

Except the Duggar family I mentioned. They're taking it entirely TOO far. Nineteen kids and trying for 20 is fucking ridiculous.

Thanks for dropping by!

cheers,
Phil

stronae July 2 2012, 21:41:23 UTC

I, for one, applaud you for not living the script and instead making an active, conscious decision about who you are and what you want. Cheers!

dslartoo July 3 2012, 15:44:49 UTC

Bingo! My life, my choice. I get annoyed with people telling me I should have children, or telling me "You'll change your mind". Really? When will that be? I'm forty years old this year and I still have no urge. Good grief.

cheers,
Phil

whipchick July 3 2012, 09:57:20 UTC

I totally agree :) plus, I work with young people and I'd rather give a little love each to a bunch of kids than all my love to one!

dslartoo July 3 2012, 15:45:37 UTC

That's a good attitude to have -- lots of love for lots of kids is a good thing. I have a lot of respect for people who work with kids, as I don't have the patience or the right attitude myself. :)

Thanks as always for coming by!

cheers,
Phil

buxmama July 3 2012, 15:01:14 UTC

I like your post; however, I don't think you need to love all children in order to be a good parent. I'm a pretty damn good parent to my girl and, as we become more and more exposed to other peoples' kids, I'm discovering quickly that there are a LOT of, "ill-behaved, spoiled, bratty hellspawn" out there. More than I care to acknowledge. And I dislike them.

dslartoo July 3 2012, 15:29:46 UTC

Oh, definitely not! What I meant was that you need to love YOUR children. Not necessarily everyone else's. I don't know that anyone out there actually loves ALL children. :)

cheers,
Phil

anonymous July 7 2012, 01:14:31 UTC

"And that's why I'm not, and never will be, a parent. Because I know in my heart of hearts that I don't have the personality, the temperament, or the desire to be the best parent I could be. And without that, there's no sense in being a parent at all." I think we've had this convo in real life but buddy, I could not agree with you more wholeheartedly. I've had that conversation with Alan, more than once, because I didn't want my choices to make him feel as though he'd missed out, and as it turns out he, vice versa - but we both feel a child should absolutely be 100% the center of your universe, and with us, they just wouldn't be. We don't have that physiological, emotional, mental personality - we just don't. I love (relish, maybe need?) quiet and order and routine and orderliness (Alan perhaps less so) and kids are pretty much anathema to all of those. So offspring would be a shame for all three of us. We do have a lot of love for friends' kids, Josh, Anthony and Brooke, and we participate in lots of things such as band ( ... )