I hate the last day

[dstah]

My dog is dead and its my fault.  i want to fall in a hole and die.
Took her to the vet about her tumour because she spent thursday and thursday night crying and sooking so she was probably in pain and he basically said that there was nothing they could do, the tumour was so large now that if they were to try and cut it out there would not be enough

Comments

[inadequate]

ewww do not even think like that. you know you made the right and rational decision at the time, or else you would not have made it. it is much better that you did it now, as opposed to waiting when she is in so much pain it would be simply cruel to keep her alive. just cause dogs look all happy and whatnot, doesnt mean thats the way they feel inside.

my doggy had a brain tumour and we didn't even realise. he had a couple of moments that weren't good, and thats why we took him to the vet. the rest of the time he was normal little benji. but it was just too selfish to enjoy the good little benji and ignore the fact he was having rough times that could never be fixed.

so there is my two cents. grieve away, cause dogs are like family, but dont think you've done the wrong thing :(

[dstah]

thanks.
right now i feel like i will never forgive myself.
i guess im in shock too because it was all so fast.
i feel slack that we didn't stay with her while they did it but i just couldn't watch. but i feel terrible that she had to die alone too.
its just horrible horrible horrible. my heart is so broken.
but yeah. thank you for your words. they help. a little.

[miss_speakeasy]

i'm with Bert, you did what was right at the time please do not beat yourself up over this, unfortunately these things just happen and its very sad...at least little sassy is not in pain anymore..feel better D

xo

[dstah]

Thx
<3

[between_miles]

Donna, you didn't make a mistake. You did what you knew was right at the time, you put her out of her misery and I'm sure if she was still around she'd be extremely thankful to you for doing that. I had a family pet, Donald, a cat, and he had almost exactly the same thing as Sassy. We also made the decision to put him down. Sure, it was hard, and we felt awful, but at of the day vet's generally know what they're on about, and they wouldn't have suggested putting Sassy down if they knew the alternative was the best decision. It's perfectly alright to feel the way you do, but please don't blame yourself, the reason she is gone now is not anyone's fault at all. She was in pain, and thinking about it over the weekend would have been even more painful for her and you guys than anything else. My thoughts are with both you and Lou, and I agree with Liz and Mosh - pets are family, and loosing a family member is never ever easy. It will get easier with time and you'll come to realise that you did the right thing for her.

[magic_mr_kite]

Sometimes it's better to just put them out of their misery rather than waiting for them to die. Both of the cats our family have had ended up being put down because of strokes etc.
Sorry to hear about sassy though :(