That's a tough one all right. Death is a pretty hard concept for adults, much less 6-year-olds. While I don't normally advocate this, I'm going to now - when it comes to his "brother", lie. Explain cremation, take him somewhere nice and peaceful like in the state park and tell him his brother was scattered there. It will give him peace and might bring you some closure as well.
That's difficult to explain to someone so young, but...he's fortunate, I think, that he's asking now and that you can at least struggle to respond. It's much harder to not have any idea at all what "death" means, then to suddenly lose someone--especially at a young age.
I would tell a child that "Only God knows when someone is going to die." but then I don't know where you are with him on that kind of stuff, or if you believe... Or maybe go on to say "Most people live to be between 70 or 100 if they dont get sick or very hurt. No one knows though. Some things we just dont know."
I really believe in: never lie to children.
With the miscarriage, you could even say "He wasn't grown in mommy's tummy yet."
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luckily mine haven't asked them yet.
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"Don't worry son, with increases in the sciences of longevity and cybernetics, you may never have to die at all."
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I really believe in: never lie to children.
With the miscarriage, you could even say "He wasn't grown in mommy's tummy yet."
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