There has been a lot of discussion on LJ recently about feminism. I'm going to address some of this with simple generalisations in an attempt to explain where I feel some of the vitriol is coming from
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As a feminist I want to thank you for being brave enough to express this on LJ, which is as you seem to be aware - a hot bed of anti-male sentiment. Brave indeed, as I strongly suspect you will now be set on fire by hordes of angry ultra feminists*
* ultra feminist is really quite a bad term as there is nothing 'ultra' feminist about being anti male
You missed that sometimes people actually do want some tangible help in solving their problems, are asking someone who can reasonably be expected to provide said tangible help, and instead get sympathy. Which is just as annoying, and has so far only happened to me at the hands of women.
If you s/men/some men and some women/ and s/women/some women and some men/ and apply grammar, as suggested at the start, then the whole of the rest of the article becomes almost completely pointless. The immediate response to it becomes "and so what?"
I'm female and have on occasion got frustrated with my boyfriend for trying to be constructive when I just wanted a hug and some sympathy. OTOH, I have also been accused by another friend of being constructive towards her when she just wanted sympathy. Thus I'm not convinced that it's gender based, but more to do with being upset/trying to help.
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* ultra feminist is really quite a bad term as there is nothing 'ultra' feminist about being anti male
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I tend to get around the problem by specifying (before describing the problem) whether I'm after empathy or problem-solving.
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You missed that sometimes people actually do want some tangible help in solving their problems, are asking someone who can reasonably be expected to provide said tangible help, and instead get sympathy. Which is just as annoying, and has so far only happened to me at the hands of women.
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Doesn't make me angry, just makes me go *shurg*.
If you s/men/some men and some women/ and s/women/some women and some men/ and apply grammar, as suggested at the start, then the whole of the rest of the article becomes almost completely pointless. The immediate response to it becomes "and so what?"
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