Oh...I so feel your pain! As I'm sure you can imagine, I'm so particular about how things are stored away; most especially all of my zillion Christmas ornaments.
This, your situation, is precisely why I find myself doing so many thing alone.
There is nothing better, to my way of thinking, in being alone and getting things done just as you see fit. So happy you're content, and I'm with you in spirit! P~
Thank you! I had a hunch you might understand me...
In times like these I do think with a shudder how insupportable I might have become if I had not lived in messy households - meaning several siblings and people coming and going, sharing apartments etc, all my life. My natural tendency to classifying and inventing order (not keeping one, inventing it, you see: inventing places and uses etc) becomes in a few days so strong that when the rest of the family does return, I see and feel every blotch they make and every thing they put not in its place... I'm glad I have thought this out way back: I will NOT be the one who keeps putting thins back and cleans after others and constantly nags and complains and resents and is a general pain in the ass. I'll keep what order and clean I can - and if people mess their stuff, it's their stuff.
I decided to never nag or complain, just put things where they "belong" according to my way of thinking. :)
I grew up in a household of chaos and I decided when I had a home it would be free of that. It's a never-ending chore, what with B being...well, not so neat.
So, I just go about picking up, putting away, crapping and de-crapping surfaces...it's a constant battle. ;)
You're cool to be able to keep doing that without making noises. I just know I would. I do what I've considered fare - put in place stuff that makes me feel better - but, not put in place stuff I totally consider to be somebody else's headache. Like when kids got to teens, I told them I'd be cleaning their floors when I cleaned the house, IF the floors were uncovered and to clean. I jut know that if I'd put my time into keeping the house neat when I really wanted to be doing other things, and everybody else was doing those other things, I would get bitter.
In the end I think it is about finding a balance - knowing you do what you do because of your own free choice - and to do what you can do and feel that. Anything beyond is madness and folly and destruction of good relations.
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This, your situation, is precisely why I find myself doing so many thing alone.
There is nothing better, to my way of thinking, in being alone and getting things done just as you see fit. So happy you're content, and I'm with you in spirit! P~
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In times like these I do think with a shudder how insupportable I might have become if I had not lived in messy households - meaning several siblings and people coming and going, sharing apartments etc, all my life. My natural tendency to classifying and inventing order (not keeping one, inventing it, you see: inventing places and uses etc) becomes in a few days so strong that when the rest of the family does return, I see and feel every blotch they make and every thing they put not in its place... I'm glad I have thought this out way back: I will NOT be the one who keeps putting thins back and cleans after others and constantly nags and complains and resents and is a general pain in the ass. I'll keep what order and clean I can - and if people mess their stuff, it's their stuff.
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I grew up in a household of chaos and I decided when I had a home it would be free of that. It's a never-ending chore, what with B being...well, not so neat.
So, I just go about picking up, putting away, crapping and de-crapping surfaces...it's a constant battle. ;)
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In the end I think it is about finding a balance - knowing you do what you do because of your own free choice - and to do what you can do and feel that. Anything beyond is madness and folly and destruction of good relations.
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