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[early_to_bed]

Between my girlfriend's experience and my own, the last few weeks seem to be saying that if you want to know whether someone will sleep with you, you should just ask them. Easier said than done, of course, but it seems more reasonable to me than it used to. Especially if, after all, what you want is just something casual in the context of an

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[sewblue]

I think the direct approach is nonchalant, but any follow up on the status is more desperate. Besides, being direct and then backing off usually amps them up, in my experience.

[early_to_bed]

Interesting point. And backing off is hard, but I think I've actually learned to do it. Sometimes.

[scorpiomindsex]

I've been telling my girlfriend how well directness works. Make me envious how well it works for her -- she asks a boy if he wants to fuck, he says yes.

I think asking is fine as long as it's casual and somewhat in-context. Never hurts to start with light flirting. In my experience, if it's someone you know decently well, they'll let you know if they're interested or not without much weirdness afterwards.