Huh! I guess there's no reason why not; I just don't like saying my own name. But then, I guess you wouldn't have to say it unless things went wrong, at which point that's the least of your concerns.
I prefer the stoplight-metaphor "red", because it allows "yellow" as a caution safeword. That seems useful to me.
not that i am any authority but one thought does come to mind.... for some BDSM scenes it might not work... some with "formal training" or bastardized version of Gor training adress themselves as third person when asking a question... the purpose being to emilinate the "might i aske/beg/request permission to speak?" part, instead the formality becomes "may Chrissy stop now" "might Jenny leave now?" other third person speaking requests might be "may this girl take her leave now?"... often heard from thoe with Gor, or Gor influenced interactions/training.
actually another thought... i'm thinking of how confusing it would be for me, if i was conditioned to my own name being the stop everything safe word, lost in happy la la land of sub space, to have him whisper my name as he cums... safewords go both ways... the top can call a pause for what ever reason too...
i really like this idea. i hate saying my own name, it feels could have some cool symbolic meaning, like "i'm saying my own name because i'm turning the focus back on myself and what i need."
or maybe that's lame. but i still think it's a good idea, if only because it's a word you'd never forget.
I think it is the impracticality of it all... and simply that most subs enjoy hearing their name from their Dom's lips... not their own. Especially not as a safeword guarding one for the intense attentions of the other.
I, myself, just prefer a word completely out of context that could never been mistaken for anything else than a safeword. I find "red" too common or too subtle for me. I happen to see "red" when in a rather ecstatic and aroused mood... so I say the world a lot when allowed to speak.
"Pickles" just works wonders.
I love pickles but there is no way in hell the thought of actual pickles would ever spring up in my mind during a scene intense enough to require a safeword.
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I prefer the stoplight-metaphor "red", because it allows "yellow" as a caution safeword. That seems useful to me.
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actually another thought... i'm thinking of how confusing it would be for me, if i was conditioned to my own name being the stop everything safe word, lost in happy la la land of sub space, to have him whisper my name as he cums... safewords go both ways... the top can call a pause for what ever reason too...
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or maybe that's lame. but i still think it's a good idea, if only because it's a word you'd never forget.
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I, myself, just prefer a word completely out of context that could never been mistaken for anything else than a safeword. I find "red" too common or too subtle for me. I happen to see "red" when in a rather ecstatic and aroused mood... so I say the world a lot when allowed to speak.
"Pickles" just works wonders.
I love pickles but there is no way in hell the thought of actual pickles would ever spring up in my mind during a scene intense enough to require a safeword.
And it's juts cute. :-)
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