How we reward childish behavior

[earthen_gem]

Dear Daniel

Comments

[emmy_roo]

The problem is that it's not just about two people anymore. And that a lot more people are being hurt by the behaviors of those who were originally involved. *sigh* She won't talk to me anymore, and the horrible thing is that it's almost mutual.

[earthen_gem]

I'm extremely sorry that this has come about as a result. Know that it was never my intention to harm your relationship with her. If the only way for you to remain friends with her is to keep from voicing this opinion then I understand if you choose to do that.

[emmy_roo]

It's too late for that. First of all, I'm not going to lie, and before that email was sent the entire pod held a meeting and voted on it, which is why it's from "pod124" instead of from any individual. It was written by four people working together and every member of the pod had to approve it before it got sent out, except for me because I said I wouldn't take part in it. I still checked it over and made sure it wasn't angry and vengeful, though. Also, H. and M. both expressed their distrust of me even before I voiced my opinion at the meeting, and said that's why they haven't really talked to me for a month. Apparently it's not about you, it's about me. And M. loves talking about how she can feel people's energies and always knows things about other people, but when I finally told her how negatively the Sunday meeting affected me she was totally shocked and said she had no idea how hurt I felt at the way I was talked down to

[lizz612]

People have the right to not be slandered. Not calling the slanderer to task enables them and lets them continue under the dilusion that this behavior is acceptable. A person can tell their side of the stroy truthfully, as they see it, and with their bias in place as long as they make their bias and limited point of view known.

"He/She doesn't want people to think poorly of the other." Good honest people probably already think poorly of the gosiper. He/She has every right to mend, as needeed, his/her relationship with third parties; regardless of what that does to the relationship those third parties have with the gosiper.

"Listen I want you to know my side of the story. I'm not trying to say that I'm right and the other person is wrong, but I don't want this other person's story to influence you without hearing my point of view. I'm not asking you to take sides, I'm just asking that you hear me out."

[cantrix_caeca]

I feel awful about this whole thing. I also was not involved in the e-mail except in looking it over at the end. I've tried to hear from everyone, but it's all a big tangle and I wish I could do something to help. At the moment I'm just hoping that these issues get resolved... Deus iuva nos.