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[echri]

ok, maybe i'm just a jealous person, but I think my girlfriend might be a little bit too broad in some of her definitions of how you should act when you're dating someone. We had a talk a little while ago about what we considered cheating... a while ago when she was dating a guy she gave another guy a lap dance while in the hot tub... I would

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[pixy_magic]

She seems nice, but also seems to have different views about relationships. In my view, I agree with you. When you date someone you shouldn't be hanging all over someone else. If you care for who you are dating enough you don't want to sit and cuddle with someone else (even if it's "Only a friend"). Especially when one partner tells the other how it makes them feel.

[sdrohc_ratiug]

I'm with you, doc.

She shouldn't do such things, it's completely disrespectful to you. And if she doesnt agree when you tell her how you feel, I absolutely agree with the packing theory.

*nice,platonic and reassuring hugs*

[deboree]

By her definition of 'just friends', I should sit in your lap and cuddle with you since you're just a friend. Heh heh, I can only imagine how that scarred you. XD

Anyways, I agree with you completely. And I have to say: you don't have much luck with things of this nature (ie girlfriends) do you?

[purplestain]

Ok, well now this is hard to work with meaning as I am friends with the both of you. I feel as though you should be able to talk to her and let her know that it truely bothers you. She does need to make a few changes, but also understand that each person has a way of bonding with friends. Yes they should not cling to each other, but if she has done this before you two were going out then you can not just expect it to change so quickly. You have to let her know how it makes you feel when she acts in any way. If she tells you to stuff it, then yes leave, but give her a chance to change. And I know that this is not going to help matters, but I think I told the two of you that it was too soon to be moving into an apartment together. :S

Just remember that comunication is vital and yelling is not good comunication. HUGS Danny.

[echri]

it doesn't really matter to me if they've been like that for a long time, its not appropriate when you're dating someone. and the only reason they were like that before is because they've always had a flirty friendship, pretty much the same that me and jessie had, and that kinda shit needs to stop. If she was dating seth I wouldn't expect her to still sit on my lap and cuddle with me.

[neferde]

Don't worry about it unless the guy she's sitting on/doing things to is getting a hard on. Then it's cheating in his mind at least and then you can point it out to her that while she might not think it's cheating, he sure does because otherwise he wouldn't be reacting like that. She might also be shocked or icked out because they're getting like that when she consideres them to be friends only.

Of course you'd have to figure out a way of covertly watching other men's crotches... but I have faith in you! ^_^